Emotional Infidelity

Author : M. Gary Neuman
Publisher : Harmony
Page : 322 pages
File Size : 42,9 Mb
Release : 2009-06-03
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9780307565686

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Emotional Infidelity by M. Gary Neuman Pdf

What’s holding you back from a great marriage? “I don’t believe in ‘okay,’ ‘decent,’ or ‘solid’ marriages. I’m against them,” says M. Gary Neuman. “I believe only in great marriages, and that you should expect and reach for no less.” In the last fifteen years, M. Gary Neuman, marital therapist and architect of the Sandcastles Divorce Therapy Program, has helped thousands of couples in crisis. Couples who fight. Who’ve grown apart. Who are stuck in relationships that run more on routine and rancor than love and understanding. What he’s found is that, contrary to popular belief, the problem is usually not poor communication. It’s the failure to put most of your focus into your marriage. You’ve only got so much energy. Are you spending it by being emotionally unfaithful? Take a quick check: Do you send that funny e-mail to your friends at work—but not to your spouse? Do you chew over all the problems on the job so thoroughly with your colleagues that by the time you get home, you just don’t feel like going into it all over again? Do you get a secret thrill out of flirting with coworkers—thinking it’s safe because you know it’s not going any further? If so, you’re committing emotional infidelity—and you’re draining your marriage of the energy it needs to be great. Learning how to break this cycle is one of eleven secrets M. Gary Neuman shares in his provocative new book. Based on the ten-week program he’s developed in his successful couples counseling practice, the book offers guidelines that are often counterintuitive, even outrageous or shocking. But they work. Dare to limit contact with members of the opposite sex. Dare to need each other. Dare to put in writing the nitty-gritty realities of a marriage plan. Dare to put your marriage before your kids or job. Dare to make love in a whole new way. Dare to change your focus: make the commitment to focus on each of the eleven secrets (ten plus one bonus secret) for one week apiece and you’ll reap the rewards of a transformed marriage and a reconfirmed relationship. M. Gary Neuman’s program is guaranteed to challenge you and make you reexamine the myths holding you back from true happiness and satisfaction. It will change your marriage forever.

Author : Ronald T. Potter-Efron
Publisher : New Harbinger Publications
Page : 186 pages
File Size : 45,8 Mb
Release : 2009-01-02
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9781572245709

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The Emotional Affair by Ronald T. Potter-Efron Pdf

Provides information and advice on infidelity in a relationship in which one partner begins to have an emotional connection with some else, discussing how to recognize, address, and prevent emotional affairs.

Author : John Gottman,Nan Silver
Publisher : Simon and Schuster
Page : 304 pages
File Size : 42,6 Mb
Release : 2013-09-10
Category : FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS
ISBN : 9781451608489

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What Makes Love Last? by John Gottman,Nan Silver Pdf

"One of the foremost relationship experts at work today applies the insights of science toward understanding the real meaning of trust between a couple. He decodes the "why" behind betrayal and shows how partners can avoid or recover from unfaithfulness and maintain a loving relationship.Dr. John Gottman, the country's pre-eminent researcher on marriage, is famous for his Love Lab at the University of Washington in Seattle where he deciphers the mysteries of human relationships through scientific research. His thirty-five years of exploration have earned him numerous major awards, including from the National Institute of Mental Health, the American Psychological Association, and the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Now, Dr. Gottman offers surprising findings and advice on the characteristic that is at the heart of all relationships: Trust. Dr. Gottman has developed a formula that precisely calculates any couple's loyalty level. The results determine a relationship's likely future, including the potential for one or both partners to stray. A Love You Can Trust shows couples how to bolster their trust level and avoid what Dr. Gottman calls the "Roach Motel for Lovers." He describes how the outcome of--"sliding door moments," small pivotal points between a couple, can lead either to more emotional connection or to discontent. He suggests a new approach to handling adultery and reveals the varied and unexpected non-sexual ways that couples often betray each other. A Love You Can Trust guides couples through an empirically tested, trust-building program that will let them repair and maintain a long-term, intimate, and romantic relationship"--

Author : M. Gary Neuman,Patricia Romanowski
Publisher : Random House
Page : 482 pages
File Size : 44,5 Mb
Release : 1999-07-27
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9780679778011

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Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way by M. Gary Neuman,Patricia Romanowski Pdf

Divorce is painful and confusing. Perhaps now more than ever, you want to give your child all the love, support, and guidance he or she needs, but everything seems harder and more complicated. Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way can help. Based on Gary Neuman's phenomenally successful Sandcastles program, which has helped more than fifty thousand children cope with divorce, this warm, empathetic guide shows you: How to build a co-parenting relationship--even when you think you can't When you or your child should see a therapist Age-appropriate scripts for addressing sensitive issues What to do when a parent moves away How to stop fighting with your ex-spouse How to navigate the emotional turmoil of custody and visitation How to help your child deal with change How to cope with kids' common fears about separation How to introduce significant others into the family and help your child cope with a new stepfamily More than a hundred pieces of artwork from children of divorce will help you appreciate how kids perceive the experience. Dozens of special activities and fun exercises will help you communicate and get closer to your child. This guide shows you that divorce need not be an inevitable blot on children's lives, but an opportunity for them to grow and strengthen the bonds with their parents.

Author : Bob Stritof
Publisher : Everything
Page : 308 pages
File Size : 41,9 Mb
Release : 2004-01-19
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 1580629628

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Everything Great Marriage by Bob Stritof Pdf

Brimming with helpful information and tips, The Everything Great Marriage Book can help bring harmony to any relationship.

Author : Ibidun B. Daramola
Publisher : Notion Press
Page : 164 pages
File Size : 40,9 Mb
Release : 2021-01-30
Category : Religion
ISBN : 9781636336619

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Emotional Infidelity in the Church by Ibidun B. Daramola Pdf

What are the signs that your relationship with a disciple or a counselee has crossed boundaries and you are now living in sin? What can be done to avoid or overcome a difficult relationship? How can you safeguard your marriage and home from the problems of emotional infidelity? This book, which is meant for ministers and leaders of the Church, attempts to address these questions. The primary aim of the book is to create awareness and address the problem of emotional infidelity in the Church. It is a result of years of counselling and working with families in African and Western communities. While the book focusses on common practices within the African setting, the issues discussed cut across communities, for emotional infidelity is a common problem of communities in general. The principles and practices of the Church should guard against relationships outside the marriage. Unfortunately, emotional infidelity has found its way into the Church community. This form of sin is easy to hide. It may also appear ‘safe’ because it is not physical. But it is a sin that can destroy marriages and cause friction between couples. Therefore, there is a need to put in place safeguarding measures and policies that would protect Christian homes. This is what the book explores in a structured manner, using anecdotes, examples and data.

Author : Shirley Glass
Publisher : Simon and Schuster
Page : 450 pages
File Size : 49,5 Mb
Release : 2007-11-01
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9781416586401

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NOT "Just Friends" by Shirley Glass Pdf

One of the world’s leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of infidelity—from suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent infidelity and, if it happens, recover and heal from it. You’re right to be cautious when you hear these words: “I’m telling you, we’re just friends.” Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.

Author : Brené Brown
Publisher : Random House
Page : 353 pages
File Size : 46,8 Mb
Release : 2017-04-04
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 9780812985801

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Rising Strong by Brené Brown Pdf

#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • When we deny our stories, they define us. When we own our stories, we get to write the ending. Don’t miss the five-part HBO Max docuseries Brené Brown: Atlas of the Heart! Social scientist Brené Brown has ignited a global conversation on courage, vulnerability, shame, and worthiness. Her pioneering work uncovered a profound truth: Vulnerability—the willingness to show up and be seen with no guarantee of outcome—is the only path to more love, belonging, creativity, and joy. But living a brave life is not always easy: We are, inevitably, going to stumble and fall. It is the rise from falling that Brown takes as her subject in Rising Strong. As a grounded theory researcher, Brown has listened as a range of people—from leaders in Fortune 500 companies and the military to artists, couples in long-term relationships, teachers, and parents—shared their stories of being brave, falling, and getting back up. She asked herself, What do these people with strong and loving relationships, leaders nurturing creativity, artists pushing innovation, and clergy walking with people through faith and mystery have in common? The answer was clear: They recognize the power of emotion and they’re not afraid to lean in to discomfort. Walking into our stories of hurt can feel dangerous. But the process of regaining our footing in the midst of struggle is where our courage is tested and our values are forged. Our stories of struggle can be big ones, like the loss of a job or the end of a relationship, or smaller ones, like a conflict with a friend or colleague. Regardless of magnitude or circumstance, the rising strong process is the same: We reckon with our emotions and get curious about what we’re feeling; we rumble with our stories until we get to a place of truth; and we live this process, every day, until it becomes a practice and creates nothing short of a revolution in our lives. Rising strong after a fall is how we cultivate wholeheartedness. It’s the process, Brown writes, that teaches us the most about who we are. ONE OF GREATER GOOD’S FAVORITE BOOKS OF THE YEAR “[Brené Brown’s] research and work have given us a new vocabulary, a way to talk with each other about the ideas and feelings and fears we’ve all had but haven’t quite known how to articulate. . . . Brené empowers us each to be a little more courageous.”—The Huffington Post

Author : Tim Tedder
Publisher : Unknown
Page : 128 pages
File Size : 48,8 Mb
Release : 2017-02-06
Category : Electronic
ISBN : 0997801883

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Affair Healing by Tim Tedder Pdf

Author : Esther Perel
Publisher : HarperCollins
Page : 321 pages
File Size : 51,7 Mb
Release : 2017-10-10
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9780062322609

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The State of Affairs by Esther Perel Pdf

"A fresh look at infidelity, broadening the focus from the havoc it wreaks within a committed relationship to consider also why people do it, what it means to them, and why breaking up is the expected response to duplicity — but not necessarily the wisest one.” — LA Review of Books From iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity comes a provocative and controversial look at infidelity with practical, honest, and empathetic advice for how to move beyond it. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”

Author : Mira Kirshenbaum
Publisher : Macmillan
Page : 226 pages
File Size : 42,5 Mb
Release : 2008-05-27
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9781429944700

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When Good People Have Affairs by Mira Kirshenbaum Pdf

A world-renowned therapist, Mira Kirshenbaum has treated thousands of men and women caught in the powerful drama over what to do when an affair reaches into their emotional lives. Now, in When Good People Have Affairs, Kirshenbaum puts her unsurpassed experience into one clear, calming place. She gives readers everything they need to cut through the thickets of fear, hurt and confusion to find their ways to happier, more solid relationships with the person who's right for them. For example, Kirshenbaum identifies seventeen types of affairs, helping readers figure out which type they're in and what it means. Is it a: --"See-if" affair? --Ejector-seat affair? --Distraction affair? --Unmet-needs affair? --Panic affair? Kirshenbaum encourages honest answers to such questions as: --What am I missing in my marriage? --How do I decide between two people when it's like comparing an apple to an orange? --How do I decide to end my marriage, end my affair, or end them both? She leads readers through six easy-to-navigate steps that will take anyone from anxiety to clarity. When Good People Have Affairs will be a lifeline to any man or woman who feels caught between two lovers, and its insights are indispensable to anyone else touched by an affair.

Author : Elizabeth Landers,Vicky Mainzer
Publisher : Hyperion
Page : 194 pages
File Size : 54,7 Mb
Release : 2005-04-27
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 1401302289

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The Script by Elizabeth Landers,Vicky Mainzer Pdf

You+ve heard it before: Your friend's husband is acting distant, and she blames herself. Rumor starts to spread that he's running around with his secretary, and still your friend doesn't see. Then he drops the Bomb, moves out-and is soon happily remarried to his mistress. How could your friend have been so blind? That could never happen to you.Statistics show that 35% of husbands cheat on their wives. In The Script, Elizabeth Landers and Vicky Mainzer take readers through the standard lines that have been used by hundreds of unfaithful husbands.Like a screenplay for a movie you never wanted to see, The Script indicates which signs to look for, red flags you might not have noticed before, and how to turn the tide of disaster before it's too late.

Author : Melissa Bender
Publisher : BLVNP Incorporated
Page : 128 pages
File Size : 53,5 Mb
Release : 2017-10-22
Category : Fiction
ISBN : 9781680307634

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Forgotten Sweethearts by Melissa Bender Pdf

Things change and I finally realised that trying to fix us was nothing but a mistake.” He thought she was a headache, and she doubted him. And it was already taking its toll on their marriage. When the only solution is to divorce, they decided to try one last time again. High school sweethearts, Gabriella and Brody’s married life is far different from when they were younger. It wasn’t all sweets and candies as they had expected. Instead, every time they are together, all they do is fight, yell and scream. As much as they want to keep their relationship and family afloat, they cannot deny that they have started to grow apart. But that was until they went on a surprise holiday vacation… What if they can rekindle their fire in the most passionate way possible? Will it save their failing relationship or will it die down for good? Steamy, seductive and romantic, this is a story that will show you that it is possible to fall in love over and over again.

Author : Ronald Potter-Efron,Patricia Potter-Efron
Publisher : New Harbinger Publications
Page : 184 pages
File Size : 44,8 Mb
Release : 2007-04-01
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9781608825615

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The Emotional Affair by Ronald Potter-Efron,Patricia Potter-Efron Pdf

The Emotional Affair is the only book on the market for couples seeking to cope with and recover from one partner's emotional affair. Although emotional affairs often do not include physical intimacy, they can take away from the relationship by encouraging one partner to get his or her emotional needs met elsewhere, and by bringing secrecy and deception into the relationship, which damages trust just as surely as if the partner had slept with the other person. Emotional affairs share three characteristics: •Emotional intimacy. Transgressors share more of their inner self, frustrations and triumphs than with their spouses. They are on a slippery slope when they begin sharing the dissatisfaction with their marriage with a co-worker. •Secrecy and deception. They neglect to say, We meet every morning for coffee. Once the lying starts, the intimacy shifts farther away from the marriage. •Sexual chemistry. Even though the two may not act on the chemistry, there is at least an unacknowledged sexual attraction. Often, people whose partners have emotional affairs either don't feel like they have a right to put an end to it (after all, the other person is just a friend and not a lover), or they have to contend with the cheating person's evasions and justifications (we work together, we're not having an affair), and accusations that the jealousy or insecurity is not justified. It can be difficult to think of an emotional affair as a problem, even if it's causing the partner worry, jealousy, insecurity, and the loss of emotional connection to the cheating partner. This book helps the reader explore whether or not the partner is having an emotional affair and then offers steps to discovering the roots of the problem, making changes in the relationship, discussing the issue with the cheating partner, and recovering from the breach of trust and intimacy caused by the affair.

Author : Tara DeLecce,Postdoctoral Researcher and Special Lecturer Tara Delecce,Distinguished Professor and Chair of Psychology Todd K Shackelford,Todd K. Shackelford
Publisher : Oxford University Press
Page : 649 pages
File Size : 48,6 Mb
Release : 2022
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9780197502891

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The Oxford Handbook of Infidelity by Tara DeLecce,Postdoctoral Researcher and Special Lecturer Tara Delecce,Distinguished Professor and Chair of Psychology Todd K Shackelford,Todd K. Shackelford Pdf

Psychological research has produced a rich body of empirical data documenting humanity's propensity to commit infidelity in the context of long-term relationships, but comparatively little work has been dedicated to synthesizing these data into an integrated framework that encompasses the full range of its processes, from why it occurs in the first place to how it affects the long-term relationship thereafter. This edited handbook integrates a broad range of topics such as characteristics related to the propensity to commit infidelity, sex differences in reactions to infidelity, our inclination to dissolve relationships after infidelity, and other responses to infidelity. It showcases contributions from experts in social psychology, evolutionary psychology, and others who specialize in research on romantic relationships. The handbook discusses the processes of infidelity alongside sources of variation, such as sexual orientation, developmental life history, individual differences, and culture. This volume captures the interdisciplinary quality of research on the predictors, nature, and consequences of infidelity for the broader social scientific community interested in trust in romantic relationships.