For Every Dark Night A Mother S Journey Through Grief And Trauma
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For Every Dark Night . . . A Mother's Journey Through Grief and Trauma by Diane Muller Ludman Pdf
"In Every Dark Night...A Mother's Journey through Grief and Trauma, Diane Ludman courageously shares her difficult and rewarding journey through the grieving process. Her stories of navigating grief's peaks and valleys are clearly driven by love and support from her family and her "family of friends". Honoring her feelings, instincts and intuition, Diane embraces the "sightings of Mikie" and is able to enjoy his presence in her life... and to always be Mikie's mom. With gathered strength and courage, Diane reveals how trust can open doors to healing. Diane provides a comforting treasure for grieving parents and a book to remember for us all." -Elizabeth Pearce KinderMourn Counselor/Facilitator
One in four people will be faced with cancer during their lifetime. No matter what the location or type of tumor, the most effective treatment addresses the whole person.Journey through Cancer provides a road map for healing at all levels--body, mind, and spirit. It shows how to: - Get the best results from medical treatment- Minimize side effects- Evlaluate and choose from the vast array of alternative therapies- Integrate traditional and complementary therapies- Work with the mind-body connection to fight cancer and strengthen the immune system- Maximize the effectiveness of prayer and other spiritual healing techniques- Understand the spiritual lessons that illness can teach- Integrate physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual techniques for your own healing journey
Too Much Loss: Coping with Grief Overload by Alan Wolfelt Pdf
Grief overload is what you feel when you experience too many significant losses all at once, in a relatively short period of time, or cumulatively. In addition to the deaths of loved ones, such losses can also include divorce, estrangement, illness, relocation, job changes, and more. Our minds and hearts have enough trouble coping with a single loss, so when the losses pile up, the grief often seems especially chaotic and defeating. The good news is that through intentional, active mourning, you can and will find your way back to hope and healing. This compassionate guide will show you how.
In this groundbreaking new work, David Kessler—an expert on grief and the coauthor with Elisabeth Kübler-Ross of the iconic On Grief and Grieving—journeys beyond the classic five stages to discover a sixth stage: meaning. In 1969, Elisabeth Kübler Ross first identified the stages of dying in her transformative book On Death and Dying. Decades later, she and David Kessler wrote the classic On Grief and Grieving, introducing the stages of grief with the same transformative pragmatism and compassion. Now, based on hard-earned personal experiences, as well as knowledge and wisdom earned through decades of work with the grieving, Kessler introduces a critical sixth stage. Many people look for “closure” after a loss. Kessler argues that it’s finding meaning beyond the stages of grief most of us are familiar with—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—that can transform grief into a more peaceful and hopeful experience. In this book, Kessler gives readers a roadmap to remembering those who have died with more love than pain; he shows us how to move forward in a way that honors our loved ones. Kessler’s insight is both professional and intensely personal. His journey with grief began when, as a child, he witnessed a mass shooting at the same time his mother was dying. For most of his life, Kessler taught physicians, nurses, counselors, police, and first responders about end of life, trauma, and grief, as well as leading talks and retreats for those experiencing grief. Despite his knowledge, his life was upended by the sudden death of his twenty-one-year-old son. How does the grief expert handle such a tragic loss? He knew he had to find a way through this unexpected, devastating loss, a way that would honor his son. That, ultimately, was the sixth state of grief—meaning. In Finding Meaning, Kessler shares the insights, collective wisdom, and powerful tools that will help those experiencing loss. Finding Meaning is a necessary addition to grief literature and a vital guide to healing from tremendous loss. This is an inspiring, deeply intelligent must-read for anyone looking to journey away from suffering, through loss, and towards meaning.
BOOKER PRIZE WINNER • NATIONAL BESTSELLER • A novel that follows a middle-aged man as he contends with a past he never much thought about—until his closest childhood friends return with a vengeance: one of them from the grave, another maddeningly present. A novel so compelling that it begs to be read in a single setting, The Sense of an Ending has the psychological and emotional depth and sophistication of Henry James at his best, and is a stunning achievement in Julian Barnes's oeuvre. Tony Webster thought he left his past behind as he built a life for himself, and his career has provided him with a secure retirement and an amicable relationship with his ex-wife and daughter, who now has a family of her own. But when he is presented with a mysterious legacy, he is forced to revise his estimation of his own nature and place in the world.
From the internationally acclaimed, bestselling author of We Should All Be Feminists and Americanah, a profound reckoning with loss, written in the wake of her father’s death. During the brutal summer of 2020, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s beloved father, a celebrated professor at the University of Nigeria and an irreplaceable figure in a close-knit family, succumbed unexpectedly to complications of kidney failure. Notes on Grief is Adichie’s tribute to him, and a moving meditation on loss. Here Adichie offers a candid snapshot of the shock, loneliness, and disillusionment that followed the news of her father’s death. Her family, unable to be together except for on video calls, struggles to go through the rites of mourning amid a global crisis of unimaginable scale. As Adichie wrestles with his passing, she recalls with vivid, poignant detail who her father was: a remarkable survivor of the Biafran war, a man of kindness and charm, and a fierce supporter of his youngest daughter. Here is a uniquely personal, profound work of remembrance and hope by one of today’s luminaries—a book to bring us together in a time when we need it most.
Inspiring hope, solace, and courage in living through our losses, author Martín Prechtel, trained in the Tzutujil Maya shamanic tradition, shares profound insights on the relationship between grief and praise in our culture--how the inability that many of us have to grieve and weep properly for the dead is deeply linked with the inability to give praise for living. In modern society, grief is something that we usually experience in private, alone, and without the support of a community. Yet, as Prechtel says, "Grief expressed out loud for someone we have lost, or a country or home we have lost, is in itself the greatest praise we could ever give them. Grief is praise, because it is the natural way love honors what it misses." Prechtel explains that the unexpressed grief prevalent in our society today is the reason for many of the social, cultural, and individual maladies that we are currently experiencing. According to Prechtel, "When you have two centuries of people who have not properly grieved the things that they have lost, the grief shows up as ghosts that inhabit their grandchildren." These "ghosts," he says, can also manifest as disease in the form of tumors, which the Maya refer to as "solidified tears," or in the form of behavioral issues and depression. He goes on to show how this collective, unexpressed energy is the long-held grief of our ancestors manifesting itself, and the work that can be done to liberate this energy so we can heal from the trauma of loss, war, and suffering. At base, this "little book," as the author calls it, can be seen as a companion of encouragement, a little extra light for those deep and noble parts in all of us.
The death of your child breaks you. With some luck, you may be able to rebuild most of who you were before that loss so that you are not a complete stranger, even to yourself. Even then, you know that you will never be the same again. There will always be a piece of you missing, leaving you forever broken. With the loss of her son, Jeramie, to a car accident, author Daynabelle Anderson found this to be true of herself: a forever broken mom. She then had to decide whether to fight it and live her life, trying in vain to be whole again, only to punish herself over and over when her efforts resulted in failure. Or she could accept that this was who she was now--to allow herself to be broken and to forgive herself for it. She chose the latter, and now she chronicles her journey into that brokenness. This personal narrative offers one mother's story and her perspective on how to live with grief, intended for anyone who has lost a loved one and who feels pressured to move on.
Shelley's memoir puts a face on a tragedy that is too easy to ignore with all the war deaths overwhelming our senses. (V. Mora) On March 8, 2008 Sgt. Gabriel Guzman of the US Army was killed by a roadside bomb while on patrol in Afghanistan. In her touching memoir, Shelley Tucker, takes us through the aftermath of having her son's life suddenly ripped away. As she struggles with understanding her son and why he would choose to fight in a war when her desire in this world was for peace, further tragedy strikes. She's pulled into the mysteries of the Mayan Calendar and the ruling Lord of Destruction, Tetzcatlipoca. Her journey is one of every grieving parent, trying to go on when the world stops making sense. There are no easy answers as those around her offer platitudes, she finds herself more alone than ever. She journeys deeply inward in search of her truth, to understand grief and what it means for her. Shelley finds that her way isn't as simple as war or peace. It's finding love and compassion for our soldiers and warriors, while also praying and working towards better solutions to our conflicts as nations, people, families, enemies and friends. Even ten years later, she couldn't just let her son's life slip away without comment. This book is also Gabriel's legacy. He was an inspiration to family and friends. And in the end, she discovered the ultimate letting go was both embracing and releasing her son. This is part of the untold story of the aftermath of war. With thousands of our young men killed in Afghanistan and Iraq, the lives of their families have been forever changed. The soldiers who return, after witnessing deaths of friends and comrades, back to a life they no longer recognize. No one likes to talk of death or trauma. Shelley's book is an opening to conversation that should not be bottled up or pushed aside.Her story isn't just for her and her son. It's for all those who have experienced great loss, it's for the mothers and fathers, sisters and brothers, wives and husbands, children and friends. Through understanding the pain of another, perhaps we can find our way to understand grief.
Trauma robs a person from feeling safe. It cripples one's ability to be in relationship with others and to trust that the world is good. Trauma changes everything. Through this memoir, told through prose and poetry, Kaisu Aldom takes the courageous step to share her trauma story in the hopes that others might find solace here. Kaisu invites her reader to consider the impact that trauma may be having on children, parents, and families in every community. Through her own experiences as a mother and teacher, Kaisu shares her journey through deep sorrow, anguish, and pain as she tries to grapple with the question whether healing from trauma can be found through communities that genuinely care. Many people go unvalued in our world, including our innocent and vulnerable children. That's why we need this important and well-written book. Kaisu Aldom and her husband set on a journey to give all of their children a loving and trustworthy home, only to learn how unloving the world can sometimes be to traumatized kids and parents alike. The author is not only a mother, she's also a gifted elementary school teacher. Her book is full of suggestions about how individuals and institutions can practice the kind of empathy that relieves trauma rather than multiplying it. As a writer and the father of two adopted children, I highly recommend "Refuge in the Shadows." It's honest about what hides in the shadows of our world, but never fails to point us toward the light. -Parker J. Palmer (author of "On the Brink of Everything," "The Courage to Teach," "A Hidden Wholeness," and "Let Your Life Speak") "Kaisu has an incredibly powerful gift of touching the heart of the reader with her honest and vulnerable reflections. She beautifully shines necessary light on an unseen reality for those parenting children who have experienced trauma. She reminds us of the intense need for caring and healing communities all around us. This remarkable work is a must-read for all those doing life alongside families impacted by trauma." -Meagan VanDiermen, Registered Clinical Counsellor "In one of her brilliant and compelling poems, Kaisu Aldom tells us "all I have left to offer you is my story." And what a gift this story is for all of us! For who has not been touched by sadness and suffering in some way? Kaisu's book is particularly significant for those who have experienced trauma and for educators, counsellors, and health care professionals to provide deep insight into the lived experience of trauma. Kaisu takes you inside her own and her family's story of loss, grief, faith, and courage as she navigates both the darkness and the light of their experience. This book will inspire, provoke, and provide a balm for the soul. To use Kaisu's own words: "It does something to you. It changes you." Prepare to be changed as you read this provocative and heart-breaking book." -Dr. Sue Montabello, Department of Education, Simon Fraser University
When a loved one dies we mourn our loss. We take comfort in the rituals that mark the passing, and we turn to those around us for support. But what happens when there is no closure, when a family member or a friend who may be still alive is lost to us nonetheless? How, for example, does the mother whose soldier son is missing in action, or the family of an Alzheimer's patient who is suffering from severe dementia, deal with the uncertainty surrounding this kind of loss? In this sensitive and lucid account, Pauline Boss explains that, all too often, those confronted with such ambiguous loss fluctuate between hope and hopelessness. Suffered too long, these emotions can deaden feeling and make it impossible for people to move on with their lives. Yet the central message of this book is that they can move on. Drawing on her research and clinical experience, Boss suggests strategies that can cushion the pain and help families come to terms with their grief. Her work features the heartening narratives of those who cope with ambiguous loss and manage to leave their sadness behind, including those who have lost family members to divorce, immigration, adoption, chronic mental illness, and brain injury. With its message of hope, this eloquent book offers guidance and understanding to those struggling to regain their lives. Table of Contents: 1. Frozen Grief 2. Leaving without Goodbye 3. Goodbye without Leaving 4. Mixed Emotions 5. Ups and Downs 6. The Family Gamble 7. The Turning Point 8. Making Sense out of Ambiguity 9. The Benefit of a Doubt Notes Acknowledgments Reviews of this book: You will find yourself thinking about the issues discussed in this book long after you put it down and perhaps wishing you had extra copies for friends and family members who might benefit from knowing that their sorrows are not unique...This book's value lies in its giving a name to a force many of us will confront--sadly, more than once--and providing personal stories based on 20 years of interviews and research. --Pamela Gerhardt, Washington Post Reviews of this book: A compassionate exploration of the effects of ambiguous loss and how those experiencing it handle this most devastating of losses ... Boss's approach is to encourage families to talk together, to reach a consensus about how to mourn that which has been lost and how to celebrate that which remains. Her simple stories of families doing just that contain lessons for all. Insightful, practical, and refreshingly free of psychobabble. --Kirkus Review Reviews of this book: Engagingly written and richly rewarding, this title presents what Boss has learned from many years of treating individuals and families suffering from uncertain or incomplete loss...The obvious depth of the author's understanding of sufferers of ambiguous loss and the facility with which she communicates that understanding make this a book to be recommended. --R. R. Cornellius, Choice Reviews of this book: Written for a wide readership, the concepts of ambiguous loss take immediate form through the many provocative examples and stories Boss includes, All readers will find stories with which they will relate...Sensitive, grounded and practical, this book should, in my estimation, be required reading for family practitioners. --Ted Bowman, Family Forum Reviews of this book: Dr. Boss describes [the] all-too-common phenomenon [of unresolved grief] as resulting from either of two circumstances: when the lost person is still physically present but emotionally absent or when the lost person is physically absent but still emotionally present. In addition to senility, physical presence but psychological absence may result, for example, when a person is suffering from a serious mental disorder like schizophrenia or depression or debilitating neurological damage from an accident or severe stroke, when a person abuses drugs or alcohol, when a child is autistic or when a spouse is a workaholic who is not really 'there' even when he or she is at home...Cases of physical absence with continuing psychological presence typically occur when a soldier is missing in action, when a child disappears and is not found, when a former lover or spouse is still very much missed, when a child 'loses' a parent to divorce or when people are separated from their loved ones by immigration...Professionals familiar with Dr. Boss's work emphasised that people suffering from ambiguous loss were not mentally ill, but were just stuck and needed help getting past the barrier or unresolved grief so that they could get on with their lives. --Asian Age Combining her talents as a compassionate family therapist and a creative researcher, Pauline Boss eloquently shows the many and complex ways that people can cope with the inevitable losses in contemporary family life. A wise book, and certain to become a classic. --Constance R. Ahrons, author of The Good Divorce A powerful and healing book. Families experiencing ambiguous loss will find strategies for seeing what aspects of their loved ones remain, and for understanding and grieving what they have lost. Pauline Boss offers us both insight and clarity. --Kathy Weingarten, Ph.D, The Family Institute of Cambridge, Harvard Medical School
When the urn was empty, we each put our rose into it, signifying our love for Cassie. The urn would not remain empty; her memory on earth would remain alive in us. Huddling together, arms entwined, I offered a prayer to God committing Cassie to his eternal care. Meanwhile, the youngest member of the family, only 8 years old, spontaneously began drawing hearts in the sand. Multiple hearts -- hearts within hearts, small hearts, large hearts. When we turned back toward the shore, the beach was covered with them. Before the Bow Breaks is the love story of a mother searching for meaning in the life and death of her daughter, Cassie. Tormented by depression and anxiety, Cassie sought escape in alcohol and drug addiction. She was a paradox between wit and confusion, her life filled with dark, woeful tales and bright, fun-loving laughter. Yes, grieving is ultimately about letting go, but it is also about finding peace and clarity in the letting go. By sharing her journey in Before the Bow Breaks, EsthersChild helps to guide other families of addicts as they work their way through grief, pain, and loss.
Soul Light for the Dark Night by Patrick Flemming, M.Div., L.C.S.W., C.S.A.T.,Sue Lauber-Fleming, R.N., M.A., L.C.S.W.,Vicki Schmidt, B.S. Pdf
Ready for your spirit to feel whole again? These daily meditations provide trauma survivors with a daily experience of the emotional and spiritual healing that our soul wants for us. Based on years of counseling and spiritual coaching of survivors of all types of traumas, the authors invite readers to a daily healing and empowering connection to their soul and conscious contact with their Higher Power. Peace is an inside job. Deep within you is an indestructible soul whose voice and divine spark can speak the wisdom you need and prove the light to illuminate even the dark places and shadowy paths of your life journey. For many survivors of trauma and abuse, the emotional and spiritual wounds of your trauma can drown out the small, still voice of your soul and block your view of its light. But the dark night of trauma is no match for the inner light of your soul.
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A stunning “portrait of the enduring grace of friendship” (NPR) about the families we are born into, and those that we make for ourselves. A masterful depiction of love in the twenty-first century. NATIONAL BOOK AWARD FINALIST • MAN BOOKER PRIZE FINALIST • WINNER OF THE KIRKUS PRIZE A Little Life follows four college classmates—broke, adrift, and buoyed only by their friendship and ambition—as they move to New York in search of fame and fortune. While their relationships, which are tinged by addiction, success, and pride, deepen over the decades, the men are held together by their devotion to the brilliant, enigmatic Jude, a man scarred by an unspeakable childhood trauma. A hymn to brotherly bonds and a masterful depiction of love in the twenty-first century, Hanya Yanagihara’s stunning novel is about the families we are born into, and those that we make for ourselves. Look for Hanya Yanagihara’s latest bestselling novel, To Paradise.
Learning to Walk in the Dark by Barbara Brown Taylor Pdf
In this long awaited follow-up to the best-selling An Altar in the World, Barbara Brown Taylor explores ‘the treasures of darkness’ that the Bible speaks about. What can we learn about the ways of God when we cannot see the way ahead, are lost, alone, frightened, not in control or when the world around us seems to have descended into darkness?
