Forgiving And Reconciling

Author : Everett L. Worthington Jr.
Publisher : InterVarsity Press
Page : 272 pages
File Size : 45,6 Mb
Release : 2009-08-20
Category : Religion
ISBN : 9780830875269

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Forgiving and Reconciling by Everett L. Worthington Jr. Pdf

A Templeton Foundation Book of Distinction All of us have suffered painful emotional and relational hurts. God calls us to forgive those who have hurt us, but that's often easier said than done. We don't usually know how to forgive others, nor are we always sure if we have truly forgiven them. Psychologist and counselor Everett L. Worthington Jr., the leading Christian researcher on forgiveness, says that forgiving is a gift we give to others. When we offer forgiveness to others as an altruistic gift, it is more effective than when we forgive only for our own benefit in an effort to "get over" the hurt. True forgiveness is accomplished through a careful process of understanding both the offense and the offender and taking active steps to forgiveness. In this insightful and practical book, Worthington provides a wealth of clinically proven tools and exercises for moving toward forgiveness. Worthington's expertise comes not only from years of scientific research but also from the experience of the brutal murder of his own mother. His convictions were put to the test as he worked through his conflicting emotions and rage toward the murderer. He found that the principles of Christian forgiveness enabled him to forgive even his mother's killer. While forgiveness is something that we can do on our own, reconciliation involves another party. Worthington brings both themes together and shows how we can move beyond forgiveness and cross the bridge to reconciliation. This book, previously published as Five Steps to Forgiveness, has been fully revised to make clear the scriptural foundations of Christian forgiveness. Biblical, authoritative and pastorally sound, this guide will be of help to anyone who wants to find the freedom of forgiveness.

Author : Everett L. Worthington, Jr.
Publisher : Routledge
Page : 325 pages
File Size : 55,9 Mb
Release : 2013-05-13
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9781135450953

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Forgiveness and Reconciliation by Everett L. Worthington, Jr. Pdf

To be unforgiving is harmful. The inability to come to terms with one’s anger or strife often can lead to stress disorders, mental health disorders, and relationship problems. Forgiveness is a personal decision. Forgiveness and Reconciliation focuses on individual experiences with forgiveness, aiming to create a theory of what forgiveness is and connect it to a clinical theory of how to promote forgiveness. Dr. Worthington creates an evidence-based approach that is applicable for individuals and relationships, and even for society. He also describes an evidence-based method of reconciliation - restoring trust in damaged relationships. Dr. Worthington hopes that this theory will inform scientific research and improve intervention strategies. Showing that forgiveness transforms personality, Worthington describes ways a clinician can promote (but not force) forgiveness of others and self. He provides research-based theory and applications and discusses the role of emotion and specific personality traits as related to forgiveness. Forgiveness and reconciliation might not be cures, but, as Worthington shows, they are tools for transforming both the self and the world.

Author : Raymond G. Helmick,Rodney Petersen
Publisher : Templeton Foundation Press
Page : 480 pages
File Size : 41,9 Mb
Release : 2018-01-24
Category : Religion
ISBN : 9781890151843

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Forgiveness & Reconciliation by Raymond G. Helmick,Rodney Petersen Pdf

This book brings together a unique combination of experts in conflict resolution and focuses on the role forgiveness can play in the process. It deals with theology, public policy, psychological and social theory, and social policy implementation of forgiveness. This book is essential for libraries, scholars, conflict negotiators, and all people who hope to understand the role of forgiveness in the peace process. The book's first section explores how ideas like "forgiveness" and "reconciliation" are moving out from the seminary and academy into the world of public policy and how these terms have been used and defined in the past. The second section looks at forgiveness and public policy. One of the chapters, by Donald W. Shriver Jr., addresses forgiveness in a secular political forum. The third section of the book draws us to a more thorough analysis of the relationship between forgiveness and reconciliation from voices in the academic and theological community, and the final section highlights the work of practitioners currently working with religion, public policy, and conflict transformation, particularly in areas such as Ireland and Africa. Contributors include Desmond M. Tutu, Rodney L. Petersen, Miroslav Volf, Stanley S. Harakas, Raymond G. Helmick, SJ, Joseph V. Montville, Douglas M. Johnston, Donna Hicks, Donald W. Shriver, Jr., Everett L. Worthington, Jr., John Paul Lederach, Ervin Staub, Laurie Anne Pearlman, John Dawson, Audrey R. Chapman, Olga Botcharova, Anthony da Silva, SJ, Geraldine Smythe, OP, Andrea Bartoli, Ofelia Ortega, and George F. R. Ellis.

Author : Ani Kalayjian,Raymond F. Paloutzian
Publisher : Springer Science & Business Media
Page : 313 pages
File Size : 46,6 Mb
Release : 2009-07-21
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9781441901811

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Forgiveness and Reconciliation by Ani Kalayjian,Raymond F. Paloutzian Pdf

We all long for peace within ourselves, families, communities, countries, and throughout the world. We wonder what we can do about the multitude of con?icts currently wreaking havoc across the globe and the continuous reports of violence in communities as well as within families. Most of the time, we contemplate solutions beyond our reach, and overlook a powerful tool that is at our disposal: forgiveness. As a genocide survivor, I know something about it. As the genocide unfolded in Rwanda in 1994, I was devastated by what I believed to be the inevitable deaths of my loved ones. The news that my parents and my seven siblings had indeed been killed was simply unbearable. Anger and bitterness became my daily companions. Likewise, I continued to wonder how the Hutus and Tutsis in Rwanda could possibly reconcile after one of the most horrendous genocides of the 20th century. It was not until I came to understand the notion of forgiveness that I was able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Common wisdom suggests that forgiveness comes after a perpetrator makes a genuine apology. This wisdom informs us that in the aftermath of a wrongdoing, the offender must acknowledge the wrong he or she has done, express remorse, express an apology, commit to never repeating said harm, and make reparations to theextentpossible.Onlythencanthevictimforgiveandagreetoneverseekrevenge.

Author : L. Gregory Jones,Célestin Musekura
Publisher : InterVarsity Press
Page : 140 pages
File Size : 44,9 Mb
Release : 2010-09-07
Category : Religion
ISBN : 9780830868179

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Forgiving As We've Been Forgiven by L. Gregory Jones,Célestin Musekura Pdf

Christians are supposed to forgive others as we've been forgiven. But hearing the call to forgive is different from knowing how to practice forgiveness at home and in the world. Forgiveness is about more than the isolated acts and words of individuals. To forgive and be forgiven, we need communal practices and disciplines for a way of life that makes for peace. Greg Jones and Célestin Musekura describe how churches and communities can cultivate the habits that make forgiveness possible on a daily basis. Following the Rwandan genocide, Musekura lost his father and other family members to revenge killings. But then he heard God tell him to forgive the killers. The healing power of forgiveness in his own life inspired him to work for forgiveness and reconciliation across Africa. Jones, author of Embodying Forgiveness, interacts with Musekura's story to show how people can practice forgiveness not only in dramatic situations like genocide but also in everyday circumstances of marriage, family and congregational life. Together they demonstrate that forgiving and being forgiven are mutually reciprocating practices that lead to transformation and healing.

Author : Everett L. Worthington
Publisher : Crown Publishing Group (NY)
Page : 0 pages
File Size : 42,9 Mb
Release : 2001
Category : Forgiveness
ISBN : 0609609181

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Five Steps to Forgiveness by Everett L. Worthington Pdf

The Templeton Foundation, whose board members include Desmond Tutu, Jimmy Carter, Robert Coles, and others, has already funded more than $5 million and supported 58 studies to show that it's possible to teach people to forgive faster, more thoroughly, and with longer-lasting results. The core of Everett Worthington's own research is his revolutionary five-step Reach program for forgiveness: R = Recall the hurt (define your feelings and expectations)E = Empathize with the one who hurt you (put yourself in the victimizer's shoes)A = Give the Altruistic gift of forgiveness (commit to a selfless act)C = Commit to forgive (make your act a public one)H = Hold onto forgiveness (learn how not to slide back into thoughts of revenge and retaliation)The author lays out the research results that demonstrate that people who forgive are healthier and happier. It offers a new definition of forgiveness: it's not an act of will, but rather a change in understanding.This revolutionary book provides readers with a new road out of the pain of victimization.

Author : Eamon Tobin
Publisher : Unknown
Page : 68 pages
File Size : 51,7 Mb
Release : 1993
Category : Religion
ISBN : 089243516X

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How to Forgive Yourself and Others by Eamon Tobin Pdf

Author : Everett L. Worthington Jr.
Publisher : InterVarsity Press
Page : 252 pages
File Size : 49,6 Mb
Release : 2013-05-01
Category : Religion
ISBN : 9780830895823

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A Just Forgiveness by Everett L. Worthington Jr. Pdf

Christian faith calls for forgiveness and mercy. But how can Christians forgive without excusing wrongdoing? Psychologist and leading forgiveness researcher Everett Worthington gives Christian foundations for understanding just forgiveness and dealing with wrongdoers in this comprehensive guide which offers practical resources for both individuals and communities.

Author : Wilson López López,Laura K. Taylor
Publisher : Springer Nature
Page : 328 pages
File Size : 51,6 Mb
Release : 2021-09-03
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9783030776886

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Transitioning to Peace by Wilson López López,Laura K. Taylor Pdf

This edited volume highlights how individuals, communities and nations are addressing a history of protracted violence in the transition to peace. This path is not linear or straightforward. The volume integrates research from peace processes and practices spanning over 20 countries. Four thematic areas unite these contributions: formal transitional justice mechanisms, social movements and collective action, community-driven processes, and future-oriented initiatives focused on children and youth. Across these chapters, the volume offers critical insight, new methods, conceptual models, and valuable cross-cultural research. The chapters in this volume balance locally-situated realties of peace, as well as cross-cutting similarities across contexts. This book will be of particular interest to those working for peace on the frontlines, as well as global policymakers aiming to learn from other cases. Academics in the fields of psychology, sociology, education, peace studies, communication, community development, youth studies, and behavioral economics may be particularly interested in this volume.

Author : Miroslav Volf
Publisher : Wm. B. Eerdmans Publishing
Page : 331 pages
File Size : 48,5 Mb
Release : 2021-01-12
Category : Religion
ISBN : 9781467462020

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The End of Memory by Miroslav Volf Pdf

Winner of the Christianity Today Book Award in Christianity and Culture How should we remember atrocities? Should we ever forgive abusers? Can we not hope for final reconciliation, even if it means redeemed victims and perpetrators spending eternity together? We live in an age that insists that past wrongs—genocides, terrorist attacks, bald personal injustices—should never be forgotten. But Miroslav Volf here proposes the radical idea that letting go of such memories—after a certain point and under certain conditions—may actually be a gift of grace we should embrace. Volf’s personal stories of persecution and interrogation frame his search for theological resources to make memories a wellspring of healing rather than a source of deepening pain and animosity. Controversial, thoughtful, and incisively reasoned, The End of Memory begins a conversation that we avoid to our great detriment. This second edition includes an appendix on the memories of perpetrators as well as victims, a response to critics, and a James K. A. Smith interview with Volf about the nature and function of memory in the Christian life.

Author : Shane Pruitt
Publisher : Multnomah
Page : 224 pages
File Size : 45,9 Mb
Release : 2019-02-19
Category : Religion
ISBN : 9780735291584

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9 Common Lies Christians Believe by Shane Pruitt Pdf

Maybe God isn't who you think He is. Maybe He's much better. Pastor and speaker Shane Pruitt guides readers in identifying the Christian cliches we've all heard that are actually unbiblical lies. He then counters with the truths about God as presented in the Bible, truths that bring encouragement and freedom for our lives. God won't give you more than you can handle. Really? Pastor and speaker Shane Pruitt shines a light on this and other Christian cliches that upon further inspection are actually unbiblical lies that keep far too many believers stuck in spiritual immaturity.

Author : Everett L. Worthington Jr.
Publisher : InterVarsity Press
Page : 342 pages
File Size : 55,9 Mb
Release : 2013-02-04
Category : Religion
ISBN : 9780830871988

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Hope-Focused Marriage Counseling by Everett L. Worthington Jr. Pdf

Everett L. Worthington, Jr. offers a comprehensive manual for assisting couples over common rough spots and through serious problems in a manner that is compassionate, effective and brief. His hope-focused (rather than problem-focused) approach enables couples to see that change is possible and gives them a new outlook on the future. Combining this with a brief approach that addresses the realities of managed care and tight budgets, Worthington shows how to be strategic in each counseling situation by including teaching, training, exercises, forgiveness, modeling and motivation. At the heart of the book are dozens of interventions and exercises, including drawing on central values promoting confession and forgiveness strengthening communication aiding conflict resolution changing patterns of thinking developing intimacy cementing commitment Backed by years of experience and substantial research, hope-focused marriage counseling offers hope to counselors that they can provide help to troubled couples quickly, compassionately and effectively. This paperback edition includes a new introduction, summarizing the latest findings and developments in marital counseling and applying hope-focused marriage counseling to today's cultural and clinical realities.

Author : Michael McCullough
Publisher : John Wiley & Sons
Page : 323 pages
File Size : 55,7 Mb
Release : 2008-03-31
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 047026215X

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Beyond Revenge by Michael McCullough Pdf

Why is revenge such a pervasive and destructive problem? How can we create a future in which revenge is less common and forgiveness is more common? Psychologist Michael McCullough argues that the key to a more forgiving, less vengeful world is to understand the evolutionary forces that gave rise to these intimately human instincts and the social forces that activate them in human minds today. Drawing on exciting breakthroughs from the social and biological sciences, McCullough dispenses surprising and practical advice for making the world a more forgiving place. Michael E. McCullough (Miami, Florida), an internationally recognized expert on forgiveness and revenge, is a professor of psychology at the University of Miami in Coral Gables, Florida, where he directs the Laboratory for Social and Clinical Psychology.

Author : Randy Boyd
Publisher : Unknown
Page : 298 pages
File Size : 52,5 Mb
Release : 2015-07-25
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 0986398705

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Healing the Man Within by Randy Boyd Pdf

Finally! A male survivor speaks out about male childhood sexual abuse and offers survivors real strategies to find a life of purpose and happiness after trauma. In his groundbreaking book, survivor Randy Boyd talks candidly about what it really takes for men to heal from the wounds of childhood sexual abuse. In the companion 7-Day Challenge Workbook, Randy breaks down the seven most transformational healing tools and gives you a step-by-step guide to put them to work in your life starting today. Each challenge is simple, easy, and takes between five and twenty minutes to complete. Anyone can do these challenges, and everyone who has completed them has experienced dramatic, positive transformation. There are no theories or philosophies in these pages, just the rock-solid information you need to get started with these transformational healing processes.

Author : Mark R. McMinn
Publisher : Brazos Press
Page : 208 pages
File Size : 45,8 Mb
Release : 2017-08-22
Category : Religion
ISBN : 9781493411214

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The Science of Virtue by Mark R. McMinn Pdf

The church and science have drifted apart over the past century. Today the church is often deemed irrelevant by those who trust science, and science is often deemed irrelevant by those whose primary loyalties are to the church. However, this book shows that the new science of virtue--the field of positive psychology--can serve as a bridge point between science and the church and can help renew meaningful conversation. In essence, positive psychology examines how ordinary people can become happier and more fulfilled. Mark McMinn clarifies how positive psychology can complement Christian faith and promote happiness and personal flourishing. In addition, he shows how the church can help strengthen positive psychology. McMinn brings the church's experience and wisdom on six virtues--humility, forgiveness, gratitude, grace, hope, and wisdom--into conversation with intriguing scientific findings from positive psychology. Each chapter includes a section addressing Christian counselors who seek to promote happiness and fulfillment in others.