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A pioneer of LGBTQ studies dares to suggest that gayness is a way of being that gay men must learn from one another to become who they are. The genius of gay culture resides in some of its most despised stereotypes—aestheticism, snobbery, melodrama, glamour, caricatures of women, and obsession with mothers—and in the social meaning of style.
No one raises an eyebrow if you suggest that a guy who arranges his furniture just so, rolls his eyes in exaggerated disbelief, likes techno music or show tunes, and knows all of Bette Davis's best lines by heart might, just possibly, be gay. But if you assert that male homosexuality is a cultural practice, expressive of a unique subjectivity and a distinctive relation to mainstream society, people will immediately protest. Such an idea, they will say, is just a stereotype-ridiculously simplistic, politically irresponsible, and morally suspect. The world acknowledges gay male culture as a fact but denies it as a truth. David Halperin, a pioneer of LGBTQ studies, dares to suggest that gayness is a specific way of being that gay men must learn from one another in order to become who they are. Inspired by the notorious undergraduate course of the same title that Halperin taught at the University of Michigan, provoking cries of outrage from both the right-wing media and the gay press, How To Be Gay traces gay men's cultural difference to the social meaning of style. Far from being deterred by stereotypes, Halperin concludes that the genius of gay culture resides in some of its most despised features: its aestheticism, snobbery, melodrama, adoration of glamour, caricatures of women, and obsession with mothers. The insights, impertinence, and unfazed critical intelligence displayed by gay culture, Halperin argues, have much to offer the heterosexual mainstream.
How to be a Happy Homosexual by Terry Sanderson Pdf
A Gay Man's Guide for the 90s This famous counselling guide has been extensively re-written and expanded to take into account the dramatic changes in gay life over the past three years. An essential tool for counsellors, it covers all the areas of concern: coming out, sex, relationships, health, AIDS and the law. '...a splendid book, honestly felt, honestly written and presented. It's jam-packed with common-sense advice and should leave all readers feeling much more relaxed about themselves and their lives.'...
Author : Una W Fahy Publisher : Grand Central Publishing Page : 168 pages File Size : 44,7 Mb Release : 2009-09-26 Category : Family & Relationships ISBN : 9780446564854
How to Make the World a Better Place for Gays & Lesbians by Una W Fahy Pdf
This book encourages readers to confront, address, and change anti-gay prejudice on all levels of society, from personal and interpersonal to collective, religious and institutional.
How to Raise Your Child to Not Be Gay by Sick Puppies Pdf
Every parent's guide to raising a straight child. Who wants to have a gay kid in their family? You don't! That's why you and your spouse need this guide so you know how to raise your kid to keep them from going down the wrong path that leads directly to the same sex. This guide has all the tools you will need to make wise decisions. There are tips and hints, as well as, information on research regarding homosexuality both in the animal kingdom and the human population. With over 700 million homosexuals in the world, this is a growing phenomenon that this guide will stop in it's tracks. Within a few hundred years, this guide will reduce the homosexual population in half according to my ten year old daughter who was using a calculator to figure this out. Get this guide now!
Many guide books have been written for gay men, whether they are about sex, family or lifestyle. But how does one manage to be gay with poise and confidence? If anyone has the answer to this question, it must be David Leddick: He has been a self-confident gay man for some decades now. He was friends with Quentin Crisp and worked as a chorus dancer for Maria Callas. Today, Leddick is to some extent an ambassador for gay life. How to be Gay is wise and witty - and none of the essential questions remains unanswered.
How To Be a Real Gay takes its title from a series of workshops organized by gay activists in the small town of Ermelo, South Africa. Focusing on everyday practices of gayness in hair salons, churches, taverns, and meeting halls, the book explores the ambivalent space that homosexuality occupies in the newly democratic South Africa: on the one hand, protection of gay rights is a litmus test for the country's constitutional democracy, yet on the other, homosexuality is seen to threaten traditional values, customs, and beliefs. The book is the first to emerge that recounts how gays in small-town South Africa negotiate this difficult symbolic terrain. How do discourses on international gay and lesbian social movements and gay equality hang together with local views on identity, gender, and relationships? Why do small-town gays harness fashion, style, and glamour in the making and sustaining of identity? How do economically vulnerable gays organize, access resources, and create networks linking small towns to cities? How To Be a Real Gay delves to the core of what it means to be 'the other' in contexts of risk, exclusion, and inclusion. In its richly textured way, the book also speaks to the tremendous capacity of gays to imagine and create life-worlds in a harsh environment.
Confronting the psychological, social, sexual, legal, and political issues at stake in the coming-out process, Acts of Disclosure: The Coming-Out Process of Contemporary Gay Men uses research findings and first-hand accounts to help gay adolescents and men accept and embrace their sexual identity as an integral part of their being. Offering helpful advice and specific suggestions that will guide you through the coming-out process, this text also teaches family, friends, and colleagues how they can support and encourage you in this challenge.A roadmap through the confusing process of coming to terms with your sexuality both privately and publicly, Acts of Disclosure walks you step-by-step through the stages of coming out, the emotions involved, the potential pitfalls, and the kinds of receptions you may meet. It points out both healthy and self-destructive coping strategies and teaches you how to take responsibility for your sexuality. You will find its discussions straightforward, honest, and direct, as it broaches the following topics: coming out in American schools expressing your sexual identity on the job the harmful effects of involuntary public exposure why some parents adjust better than others to the fact that they have a gay child the damaging effects of social myths attached to homosexuality the emotional and behavioral reactions wives have after discovering that their husbands are gay how to anticipate a possible "outing" against oneself and the advantages of coming out to prevent such an act compulsory social programming that may be deeply injurious to gay adolescents disclosing your sexual identity after the onset of AIDSGay males of all ages, parents, friends, children, therapists, psychologists, social workers, and educators who read Acts of Disclosure will realize their error in treating gay sexual identity as undesirable, shameful, or second-rate. As you turn the last page of this comprehensive and enlightening book, you will likely find yourself with an appreciation of gay male sexuality as well as with a better understanding of the complexities of human nature.
This book is an invaluable resource manual and survival guide for gay men who often turn to peers, parents, educators, or the media for direction, only to encounter misleading myths about gay life, such as the notion that "coming out solves everything." For some gay men being homosexual is often anything but "gay." What are typically assumed to be "gay attributes" are often not characteristics of being gay but symptoms of common emotional disorders in gay men. In this insightful book, longtime psychiatrist Martin Kantor—who is himself a gay man and has been in a committed relationship for 27 years—documents the issues associated with coming out and the challenges of gay relationships, including friendship, marriage, "getting dumped," and sexuality, with unflinching and honest candor. He also addresses the emotional problems and pervasive sense of loneliness that frequently haunt gay men while examining subcultural issues which exist within the gay community, including ageism. Other topics include developing a gay lifestyle (being gay in a certain way), parental relationships, issues of midlife and aging, and therapy and self-help options for gay men who feel they need it.
Yay! You're gay! Or maybe you're bi. Or maybe you just feel different... in time, that difference will become the greatest gift you could ask for. It will bring you love, a sense of identity, a new community, and eventually the freedom to be yourself. I promise! In this personal, heartfelt go-to guide for young queer guys, YouTuber and presenter Riyadh Khalaf shares frank advice about everything from coming out to relationships, as well as interviews with inspirational queer role models, and encouragement for times when you're feeling low. There's a support section for family and friends written by Riyadh's parents and LOADS of hilarious, embarrassing, inspiring and moving stories from gay boys around the world. Includes chapters on: * Labels - what does it mean to be gay, bi, trans or queer? * Coming out * Your first crush * Dealing with bullies * Learning to love your body * Sex ed for gay guys * Coping with embarrassing moments * Finding your tribe
The Complete Guide to Gay Life for New Explorers by Michael Ryan Pdf
Q I think I'm gay, what do I do? Q Who can I talk to about being gay? Q How do I avoid HIV and AIDS? Q As a parent, do I have to accept that my child is gay? This book has the answer to these and two hundred other questions to help you understand what life is like for a gay person and how to make the most of that life. If you are gay or think you might be gay or if you are someone who needs to understand the world of a gay person, then this book is for you. It covers many of the questions emerging gay people have in relation to this new discovery and questions their family and friends might ask. It also answers questions about gay culture and gay sex and gives tips and hints for staying healthy and safe. The content is deemed to be suitable for people aged fourteen and over. Michael Ryan is a counsellor and psychotherapist who is also gay. He has worked with hundreds of gay people. He wrote this book because he needed a resource to give to students, clients and their supporters to help them in their personal discovery about being gay, or how best to support someone else who is gay. "It's basically a Gay mini-encyclopedia" - David (17) "Exactly the book I needed to explain to me what being gay is all about" - Lauren (14) "The perfect resource for parents who have a gay child" - Claire (Parent)
A groundbreaking and controversial book for gay and bisexual people on how to build happy, secure lives and relationships, and a call-to-arms for society to protect and nurture young people, regardless of their sexual orientation.
How to Understand and Accept Your Gay Son by Grant Andrews,Malan van der Walt Pdf
This book will give you all the tools you need to understand and accept your gay sonHow can you accept your gay son?If you have just found out that your son is gay, or if you think he might be, you might find it overwhelming and have lots of questions and confusion. You might wonder what made him this way, or wonder what it means for his life. You could be feeling afraid, heartbroken or disappointed. Maybe you're hoping that this is just a phase that he will grow out of. You might even feel like you don't know who he is anymore and wonder if there is any way to truly accept him. Our parents have been there tooWe struggled immensely with coming out to our parents, and they struggled to understand and accept us. That is why we decided to write this book. We both had deeply religious backgrounds and in our families being gay was never even talked about. When we realized that we were gay, we started out hating ourselves and trying everything to change. When we told our parents, they were angry and confused. They couldn't reconcile what they believed in about gay people with the fact that their own sons were gay. This book can help you to understand what being gay meansIn the book, we offer all of the information that you need about what being gay means. We give you clear, direct, and no-nonsense answers to the questions you might still have, such as: - Is homosexuality a choice - Is there a way to change him? - Whose fault is it that my son is gay? - How does it relate to my religious views? - What does this mean for my son's future? Learn what to say to your sonIt might be very difficult to know what the right thing is to say to your son when you find out he is gay. We offer many examples of the types of things you can say during those difficult, awkward conversations. The dialogues we provide are written in loving, supportive language. You can use them to make sure that your son knows how you feel while talking to him in a way that can make your relationship stronger. There are a variety of these example dialogues for many different situations, including: - What to say if you think he might be gay - What to say when he comes out to you - What to say if he finds a partner - How to talk to him about your confusion - What not to say if you want to keep your relationship intact - What to say to other family members Learn some practical steps to accept your sonThe final section of the book gives you lots of clear, practical steps that you can take in order to learn to accept your son for who he is. Once you understand what it means to be gay, you can start the work of building a new and stronger relationship with your son. We give you guidelines to overcome your discomfort and resources that you can rely on during your journey. Highly trained authors who are experts in the fieldWe have personal experience as we both walked a long path with our parents once we came out. We also work in fields relevant to LGBT issues and family research. Grant Andrews is currently completing his PhD at the University of the Western Cape, with a focus on fatherhood and masculinities. He is a researcher and lecturer. His professional focus is on leadership development and capacity building. Malan van der Walt is a student program coordinator at the University of Stellenbosch, working with young lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people. He studies psychology with a focus on gender and sexuality. He works as a counselor and runs support groups. Get this book today and start a journey of acceptance with your sonWe wrote this book to make sure that families have all of the resources they need to work through this difficult time. This book will give you vital tools to strengthen your bond with your gay son.
Acclaimed for his intricate, incisive, and often controversial explorations of art, literature, and society, Leo Bersani now addresses homosexuality in America. Hardly a day goes by without the media focusing an often sympathetic beam on gay life--and, with AIDS, on gay death. Gay plays on Broadway, big book awards to authors writing on gay subjects, Hollywood movies with gay themes, gay and lesbian studies at dozens of universities, openly gay columnists and even editors at national mainstream publications, political leaders speaking in favor of gay rights: it seems that straight America has finally begun to listen to homosexual America. Still, Bersani notes, not only has homophobia grown more virulent, but many gay men and lesbians themselves are reluctant to be identified as homosexuals. In Homos, he studies the historical, political, and philosophical grounds for the current distrust, within the gay community, of self-identifying moves, for the paradoxical desire to be invisibly visible. While acknowledging the dangers of any kind of group identification (if you can be singled out, you can be disciplined), Bersani argues for a bolder presentation of what it means to be gay. In their justifiable suspicion of labels, gay men and lesbians have nearly disappeared into their own sophisticated awareness of how they have been socially constructed. By downplaying their sexuality, gays risk self-immolation--they will melt into the stifling culture they had wanted to contest. In his chapters on contemporary queer theory, on Foucault and psychoanalysis, on the politics of sadomasochism, and on the image of "the gay outlaw" in works by Gide, Proust, and Genet, Bersani raises the exciting possibility that same-sex desire by its very nature can disrupt oppressive social orders. His spectacular theory of "homo-ness" will be of interest to straights as well as gays, for it designates a mode of connecting to the world embodied in, but not reducible to, a sexual preference. The gay identity Bersani advocates is more of a force--as such, rather cool to the modest goal of social tolerance for diverse lifestyles--which can lead to a massive redefining of sociality itself, and of what we might expect from human communities. Reviews of this book: "Perhaps no one since Leo Bersani in 'Is the Rectum a Grave?' has written so convincingly against the danger of homosexual assimilation as Leo Bersani in Homos...One of the strongest elements of [this book] is Bersani's attack on things which promote a `denial of sex,' whether it be sex acts themselves or, more importantly, the context in which those sex acts are made possible...Homos is a profound piece of imaginative literature." DD--Dale Peck, Voice Literary Supplement "In Homos, Leo Bersani effectively attacks some sacred cows of gay cultural theory. Most obviously, he argues against the tenet that gay and lesbian identities are socially constructed and so ultimately (indeed, preferably) dissolvable...Refreshingly, [Bersani] also does not skate round sensitive questions such as the status of sadomasochism within gay sexual practice, and the tortuousness of the political liaison between gays and lesbians...Bersani emerges as our most persuasive advocate of homosexual identities that offer and require social resistance--he terms this 'anticommunitarianism'--but also as perhaps the only writer in the field who convincingly brings together psychological and sociological accounts of sexuality." DD--Richard Canning, New Statesman & Society "Bersani engages with questions which the gay movement cannot ignore." DD--Times Literary Supplement "In his provocative and sure-to-be-controversial book, Homos, Bersani argues for the need to preserve the 'otherness' that he maintains is the essential core of homosexual identity." DD--David Wiegand, San Francisco Chronicle "Homos is one of the most interesting books to appear in lesbian and gay literature--in fact its vision is so broad that it places lesbian and gay readers centre stage in what could be a revolution." DD--Our Times "Leo Bersani, one of the most interesting, original and sophisticated of...literary historians, has written primarily on Modernism, from Baudelaire to Beckett and Genet, using Freud's metapsychology as a way of penetrating into the radical implications of their thought...[His] work...[is] a surprise and a revelation, both careful and highly original...It is deeply exciting to engage with Bersani's ideas. They allow us to open up traditional psychoanalytic theory, so that it is no longer a mere therapeutic strategy, and consequently a device for social control and homogeneity, but instead a larger perspective for understanding and valuing those possibilities and differences that can constitute human experience." DD--Kenneth Lewes, Psychoanalytic Books "Homos is an extremely persuasive analysis of the `anticommunal' freedom made possible by `perverse' sexuality...Bersani's argument is at once subtle, even brilliant." DD--Peggy Phelan, Contemporary Sociology
Now revised and updated for the 21st-century, Becoming Gay is the classic guide on how to accept one's homosexuality. By exploring the psychological development of gay men through personal case histories—including his own—Dr. Isay shows how disguising one's sexual identity can induce anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. Individual chapters tackle acceptance in any stage or circumstance of life, whether it be adolescence, married-with-children, retirement age, or living with HIV and AIDS. Dr. Isay's insights provide invaluable support to gay men and will enliven families, friends, and therapists who want to better understand the process of coming out and help their loved ones or patients to embrace a positive gay identity.
