Intimacy After Infidelity

Author : Steven Solomon,Lorie Teagno
Publisher : New Harbinger Publications
Page : 199 pages
File Size : 45,6 Mb
Release : 2006-11-01
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9781608829682

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Intimacy After Infidelity by Steven Solomon,Lorie Teagno Pdf

A Guide to Rebuilding Trust and Intimacy It's devastating to discover that the person you trust the most has betrayed you. You'll be facing some hard questions after learning of your partner's infidelity. You may choose to rebuild your relationship, or you may decide to move on. Whatever the right decision is for you, this book will help you figure out why your partner betrayed you and decide whether you can remain in your relationship. It will also show you new ways to relate that can help you and your partner become a lasting, loving, and committed couple. You'll start by taking a look at the phenomenon of infidelity and the three types of intimacy: self-intimacy, conflict intimacy, and affection intimacy. Then you'll learn about the three kinds of infidelity—those of fear, of loneliness, and of anger—and what each reveals about your relationship. Then it's on to practical exercises that can heal emotional wounds and enable you to recover your ability to trust. Even if you decide not to remain with your current partner, the book will help you make wise relationship choices to "affair-proof" your future relationship.

Author : Steven D. Solomon,Lorie J. Teagno
Publisher : New Harbinger Publications
Page : 199 pages
File Size : 43,5 Mb
Release : 2006
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9781572244610

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Intimacy After Infidelity by Steven D. Solomon,Lorie J. Teagno Pdf

This book offers readers a compassionate and effective strategy for recovery after their partner had cheated: by identifying the three kinds of infidelity; overcoming the pain of betrayal; and learning to rebuild a healthier 'affair-proof' relationship.

Author : Dr. Caroline Madden MFT
Publisher : Train of Thought Press
Page : 128 pages
File Size : 52,8 Mb
Release : 2015-02-17
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 9780990772866

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After a Good Man Cheats: by Dr. Caroline Madden MFT Pdf

This book is a practical action plan that will walk you through the first stages after your wife has discovered your infidelity.You'll learn the things your wife is going to feel, say, and do, giving you the following:* Insight into what she is thinking and why this is so hard for her to get over* Practical advice so you know exactly what to do at this important stage* Actual scripts so you know what to say in response to very specific situations* Clear explanations as to why certain words and actions you think will be helpful might be making this worse* Two self-administered quizzes to help you determine why you cheated so that you can get a better understanding of what triggered your affair. Included at the appropriate points are scripts of what to say and why you need to say those words at that time. Do not just memorize these words and parrot them back to your wife. You have already lost her trust; if you start using words you don't normally use, you'll sound like you're faking it. You will want to translate the scripts into your own natural wording, using the meaning of each script as a launching pad for productive, healing dialogue with your wife.Also, other these other questions are answered:* She doesn't know. I feel guilty. Should I tell her the truth?* We aren't married yet? How does that impact recovering from the affair?* I didn't have a physical relationship with my Affair Partner, why is my wife so upset?* What is an Emotional Affair?

Author : Bill Bercaw
Publisher : Unknown
Page : 174 pages
File Size : 45,9 Mb
Release : 2010
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 0982971001

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The Couple's Guide to Intimacy by Bill Bercaw Pdf

As psychologists specializing in treating sex addiction, our jobs require us to work closely with people whose lives have fallen apart. Not all couples choose to rebuild, and that is always a very personal decision. This book is for those who do, and then often find themselves wondering, "How can we have a healthy sex life after sex addiction?" We have answered this question by developing Sexual Reintegration Therapy(SRT). If you have a vision for a better relationship, SRT gives you the plan. Even if you cannot see clearly how your wounded relationship can be healed, SRT will offer you that hope. SRT consists of a progressive series of clearly defined experiences (that we have been using successfully with our clients for years) that will help you address core intimacy issues that need upgrading. The lack of a structured program to promote healthy sexuality after sexual addiction has been a major source of frustration for many couples. It is also why so many of our professional colleagues, including Dr. Patrick Carnes, have been urging us to publish this book. A man who was nearing the end of the SRT program with his wife summed up his experience this way: "This program has been more helpful to us than anything else we've tried. We knew what we wanted- we just needed a plan that could get us there."

Author : J. Parker
Publisher : Unknown
Page : 250 pages
File Size : 51,6 Mb
Release : 2016-07-26
Category : Electronic
ISBN : 1525228323

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Hot, Holy, and Humorous by J. Parker Pdf

Do you want to be a hottie in the bedroom without sacrificing holiness? How can you make the most of God's gift of sexual intimacy in marriage? Wrongful thinking and behaviors regarding sex permeate our culture. Christians need to reclaim sexuality and enjoy it in the way God intended. God does not shy away from the subject of sex. The Bible shows a better way in every area-including the marital bedroom. In Hot, Holy, and Humorous, author J. Parker gives candid advice for wives from a foundation of faith with a splash of humor. This book can boost your sex savvy and improve your marital intimacy. And guess what? With God's perfect design, you and your spouse can enjoy the most amazing sex!

Author : Tammy Nelson
Publisher : New Harbinger Publications
Page : 156 pages
File Size : 50,6 Mb
Release : 2013-01-02
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9781608823178

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The New Monogamy by Tammy Nelson Pdf

Everyone has their own concept of what “monogamy” means—and most people assume their partners and spouses are on the same page. Couples may assume that they are monogamous, but never discuss exactly what the monogamy agreement means to them. What happens when this implicit agreement is broken? After infidelity, relationships can become strained as both partners lose trust and faith in each other. The New Monogamy offers a way out of these difficulties for couples struggling to stay together after infidelity. Couples make these implicit assumptions and agreements explicit so that each partner knows exactly what is expected of them in the future and what they can expect from their partner. Author Tammy Nelson helps couples regain trust, romance, and intimacy after infidelity by redefining the monogamy contract. The new monogamy contract is an explicit relationship agreement created after the affair that allows each partner to openly, honestly, and safely share their desires, expectations, and limitations. This agreement does not create an open marriage, but rather, an open conversation wherein each partner can have a say in setting the ground rules for their relationship. The book first helps couples rebuild trust after the affair, then engages in a series of Imago dialogues based on questions about what each partner really wants in the relationship, not what you think you should want or what a partner wants you to want. The New Monogamy includes questionnaires, checklists, and candid questions for partners to ask that help welcome complete honesty and trust back into the relationship. Then, the book helps couples make an erotic recovery from infidelity by addressing erotic problems that may surface and offers advice for helping couples return to desiring and trusting one another. After an affair, it’s impossible to go back to the way the relationship was before, but this book offers the chance for a new beginning.

Author : John Gottman,Nan Silver
Publisher : Simon and Schuster
Page : 304 pages
File Size : 47,7 Mb
Release : 2013-09-10
Category : FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS
ISBN : 9781451608489

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What Makes Love Last? by John Gottman,Nan Silver Pdf

"One of the foremost relationship experts at work today applies the insights of science toward understanding the real meaning of trust between a couple. He decodes the "why" behind betrayal and shows how partners can avoid or recover from unfaithfulness and maintain a loving relationship.Dr. John Gottman, the country's pre-eminent researcher on marriage, is famous for his Love Lab at the University of Washington in Seattle where he deciphers the mysteries of human relationships through scientific research. His thirty-five years of exploration have earned him numerous major awards, including from the National Institute of Mental Health, the American Psychological Association, and the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Now, Dr. Gottman offers surprising findings and advice on the characteristic that is at the heart of all relationships: Trust. Dr. Gottman has developed a formula that precisely calculates any couple's loyalty level. The results determine a relationship's likely future, including the potential for one or both partners to stray. A Love You Can Trust shows couples how to bolster their trust level and avoid what Dr. Gottman calls the "Roach Motel for Lovers." He describes how the outcome of--"sliding door moments," small pivotal points between a couple, can lead either to more emotional connection or to discontent. He suggests a new approach to handling adultery and reveals the varied and unexpected non-sexual ways that couples often betray each other. A Love You Can Trust guides couples through an empirically tested, trust-building program that will let them repair and maintain a long-term, intimate, and romantic relationship"--

Author : Dr. Sheri Keffer
Publisher : Baker Books
Page : 336 pages
File Size : 53,9 Mb
Release : 2018-03-20
Category : Religion
ISBN : 9781493412631

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Intimate Deception by Dr. Sheri Keffer Pdf

Nothing destroys trust like sexual betrayal. Beyond broken vows, a woman who discovers that the man she loves has been viewing pornography or having an affair must deal with devastating blows to her self-image and self-worth. She must grapple with the fact that the man she thought she knew has lied and deceived her. She may even bear the brunt of shame and judgment when the people around her find out. Drawing from her experience both as a marriage and family therapist and a woman who personally experienced the devastation of sexual betrayal, Dr. Sheri Keffer walks women impacted by betrayal through the pain and toward recovery. She explains how the trauma of betrayal affects our minds, bodies, spirits, and sexuality. She offers practical tools for dealing with emotional triggers and helps women understand the realities of sexual addiction. And she shows women how to practice self-care, develop healthy boundaries, protect themselves from abuse or manipulation, and find freedom from the burden of shame and guilt.

Author : Gary Shriver,Mona Shriver
Publisher : David C Cook
Page : 288 pages
File Size : 49,6 Mb
Release : 2009-11-01
Category : Religion
ISBN : 9780781404402

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Unfaithful by Gary Shriver,Mona Shriver Pdf

Statistics show that one in every four marriages is impacted by infidelity. So the odds are pretty good that you or someone you know has experienced the searing pain of marital infidelity. But adultery is not an automatic death sentence for your marriage. You can trust again. You can restore intimacy. You can have a relationship that you will both cherish for a lifetime. Ten years ago, Gary and Mona Shriver experienced the devastation caused by adultery, and in the course of trying to save themselves, they wrote this book. Raw, transparently honest, the Shrivers’ story alone is an inspiration, offering hope and practical strategies for healing. Now this updated and revised edition adds other real-life stories of betrayal and forgiveness, and new information defining adultery, including the destruction of emotional affairs. Some doubt if a marriage can truly heal after the ravages of infidelity. Unfaithful proves you can. It’s not easy . . . but it can be done. Is it worth it? Yes. And you hold the first step—and hope—in your hand.

Author : Ryan Frederick,Selena Frederick
Publisher : Baker Books
Page : 240 pages
File Size : 47,5 Mb
Release : 2018-04-17
Category : Religion
ISBN : 9781493412778

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Fierce Marriage by Ryan Frederick,Selena Frederick Pdf

Ryan and Selena Frederick were newlyweds when they landed in Switzerland to pursue Selena's dream of training horses. Neither of them knew at the time that Ryan was living out a death sentence brought on by a worsening genetic heart defect. Soon it became clear he needed major surgery that could either save his life--or result in his death on the operating table. The young couple prepared for the worst. When Ryan survived, they both realized that they still had a future together. But the near loss changed the way they saw all that would lie ahead. They would live and love fiercely, fighting for each other and for a Christ-centered marriage, every step of the way. Fierce Marriage is their story, but more than that, it is a call for married couples to put God first in their relationship, to measure everything they do and say to each other against what Christ did for them, and to see marriage not just as a relationship they should try to keep healthy but also as one worth fighting for in every situation. With the gospel as their foundation, Ryan and Selena offer hope and practical help for common struggles in marriage, including communication problems, sexual frustration, financial stress, family tension, screen-time disconnection, and unrealistic expectations.

Author : Esther Perel
Publisher : HarperCollins
Page : 321 pages
File Size : 44,9 Mb
Release : 2017-10-10
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9780062322609

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The State of Affairs by Esther Perel Pdf

"A fresh look at infidelity, broadening the focus from the havoc it wreaks within a committed relationship to consider also why people do it, what it means to them, and why breaking up is the expected response to duplicity — but not necessarily the wisest one.” — LA Review of Books From iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity comes a provocative and controversial look at infidelity with practical, honest, and empathetic advice for how to move beyond it. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”

Author : Shirley Glass
Publisher : Simon and Schuster
Page : 450 pages
File Size : 49,8 Mb
Release : 2007-11-01
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9781416586401

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NOT "Just Friends" by Shirley Glass Pdf

One of the world’s leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of infidelity—from suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent infidelity and, if it happens, recover and heal from it. You’re right to be cautious when you hear these words: “I’m telling you, we’re just friends.” Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.

Author : Frank Pittman
Publisher : National Geographic Books
Page : 0 pages
File Size : 48,6 Mb
Release : 1990-11-06
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9780393307078

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Private Lies by Frank Pittman Pdf

Why do half the people in marriages have affairs? What problems are they trying to solve? Using actual case studies, as well as examples from music, literature, and film, Dr. Pittman identifies four basic patterns of infidelity—the accidental encounter, habitual philandering, marital arrangements, and romance—discussed how to limit the damage that affairs do, and offers practical suggestions on how to make a marriage work.

Author : Juli Slattery
Publisher : Moody Publishers
Page : 224 pages
File Size : 47,9 Mb
Release : 2015-09-22
Category : Religion
ISBN : 9780802493538

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25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask About Love, Sex, and Intimacy by Juli Slattery Pdf

Is ______ok in the bedroom? If I’m single, how far is too far? How do I get past my shame? Whether you are married or single, having great sex or no sex, your sexuality is inseparable from your spirituality. Sadly, most churches are silent on the subject. Dr. Juli Slattery is breaking the silence. In 25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask about Love, Sex, and Intimacy, she tackles the most common and critical questions women ask her about sexuality, like: What if I don’t like sex? Can I be single and sexual? Is masturbation a sin? How do I make time to make love? What if I want sex more than my husband does? Candid, wise, and practically minded, Dr. Slattery addresses matters like sexual abuse, pornography, betrayal in marriage, intimacy in the bedroom, singleness, and more, calling women to think biblically about all areas of their sexuality. Find answers to your questions, liberation from your fears, and freedom to explore God's good gifts of love, sex, and intimacy.

Author : Tim Tedder
Publisher : Unknown
Page : 128 pages
File Size : 53,5 Mb
Release : 2017-02-06
Category : Electronic
ISBN : 0997801883

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Affair Healing by Tim Tedder Pdf