Why Don T We Listen Better

Author : Jim Petersen
Publisher : James C. Petersen
Page : 242 pages
File Size : 40,6 Mb
Release : 2007
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9780979155901

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Why Don't We Listen Better? by Jim Petersen Pdf

With a light touch and sensible techniques, Dr. Jim Petersen distills years of counseling and pastoral ministry into an informal volume loaded with practical tips, examples and techniques to practice. His book highlights our culture’s courtroom-like communication that often puts people at odds with each other. Most people think they listen well but don’t and folks walk away unheard, misunderstood and disconnected. Readers will chuckle in recognition at the tongue-in-cheek but spot-on “flat-brain” theory of emotions. It shows how and why we get upset and confused in tense situations and what to do about it. It lays the practical groundwork to better manage emotionally loaded situations. This book shows communication that works and is equally appropriate for professionals, such as pastors and therapists and for the general public. The ingenious Talker-Listener Card gives a taking-turn method to end arguing as we know it. It works for couples, business relationships, church listening programs, counselors, group discussions and the family dinner table listening game. Thirty listening techniques will help the reader immediately begin to turn enemies into friends, poor relationships into decent ones and good relationships into better ones. These accessible skills are being used in pastoral counseling classes, counseling offices, church staffs, professional offices, on dates, in corporate board rooms and at kitchen tables around the country .

Author : Kate Murphy
Publisher : Celadon Books
Page : 304 pages
File Size : 51,8 Mb
Release : 2020-01-07
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9781250297204

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You're Not Listening by Kate Murphy Pdf

When was the last time you listened to someone, or someone really listened to you? "If you’re like most people, you don’t listen as often or as well as you’d like. There’s no one better qualified than a talented journalist to introduce you to the right mindset and skillset—and this book does it with science and humor." -Adam Grant, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Originals and Give and Take **Hand picked by Malcolm Gladwell, Adam Grant, Susan Cain, and Daniel Pink for Next Big Ideas Club** "An essential book for our times." -Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone At work, we’re taught to lead the conversation. On social media, we shape our personal narratives. At parties, we talk over one another. So do our politicians. We’re not listening. And no one is listening to us. Despite living in a world where technology allows constant digital communication and opportunities to connect, it seems no one is really listening or even knows how. And it’s making us lonelier, more isolated, and less tolerant than ever before. A listener by trade, New York Times contributor Kate Murphy wanted to know how we got here. In this always illuminating and often humorous deep dive, Murphy explains why we’re not listening, what it’s doing to us, and how we can reverse the trend. She makes accessible the psychology, neuroscience, and sociology of listening while also introducing us to some of the best listeners out there (including a CIA agent, focus group moderator, bartender, radio producer, and top furniture salesman). Equal parts cultural observation, scientific exploration, and rousing call to action that's full of practical advice, You're Not Listening is to listening what Susan Cain's Quiet was to introversion. It’s time to stop talking and start listening.

Author : Ximena Vengoechea
Publisher : Penguin
Page : 337 pages
File Size : 44,5 Mb
Release : 2021-03-30
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 9780593087060

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Listen Like You Mean It by Ximena Vengoechea Pdf

“Full of revealing, instantly applicable ideas for leveraging your strengths and overcoming your weaknesses.” —Adam Grant, author of Think Again and Originals, and host of the TED podcast WorkLife For many of us, listening is simply something we do on autopilot. We hear just enough of what others say to get our work done, maintain friendships, and be polite with our neighbors. But we miss crucial opportunities to go deeper—to give and receive honest feedback, to make connections that will endure for the long haul, and to discover who people truly are at their core. Fortunately, listening can be improved—and Ximena Vengoechea can show you how. In Listen Like You Mean It, she offers an essential listening guide for our times, revealing tried-and-true strategies honed in her own research sessions and drawn from interviews with marriage counselors, podcast hosts, life coaches, journalists, filmmakers, and other listening experts. Through Vengoechea’s set of scripts, key questions, exercises, and illustrations, you’ll learn to: • Quickly build rapport with strangers • Ask the right questions to deepen a conversation • Pause at the right time to encourage vulnerability • Navigate a conversation that’s gone off the rails Now more than ever, we need to feel heard, connected, and understood in a world that keeps turning up the volume. Warm, funny, and immensely practical, this book shows you how.

Author : Hugh Mackay
Publisher : Macmillan Publishers Aus.
Page : 310 pages
File Size : 40,9 Mb
Release : 2013-05-01
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 9781743511374

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Why Don't People Listen? by Hugh Mackay Pdf

First published in 1994, Hugh Mackay's Why Don't People Listen? sold 40,000 copies and became a classic on the art of successful communication. This ebook-only edition has been fully revised and updated to include a summary of the benefits and pitfalls of multi-media communication. Hugh Mackay shows us a simple yet revolutionary way to improve the quality of our relationships with our spouses, children, friends, colleagues and clients. He identifies the ten most basic laws of human communication, such as: It's not what our message does to the listener, but what the listener does with our message that determines our success as communicators. Accessible and instructive, Why Don't People Listen? is a complete guide to changing minds, improving connections and resolving conflict.

Author : Oscar Trimboli
Publisher : Unknown
Page : 156 pages
File Size : 52,7 Mb
Release : 2017-06-10
Category : Electronic
ISBN : 099537774X

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Deep Listening by Oscar Trimboli Pdf

Over 55% of your day is spent listening; yet only 2% of us have been trained in how to listen. What is poor listening costing you? Do you rush from meeting to meeting, your head buried in the last conversation you had, without time to think of the next? Or feel frustrated with unproductive discussions where the loudest in the room adds limited insight and drowns out everyone else? We usually think of these situations as communication problems; that we have not spoken our needs correctly or clearly. Yet, conflict, chaos and confusion are the costs of not listening. Many communication and listening books say the most important person in a conversation is the speaker - not true! This pocket-sized guide will help you to reconnect with your innate gift of deep listening, to create the right space to listen to yourself before you listen to others. You'll learn to listen beyond the words that are spoken, to add context and meaning and listen in to what's not being said. Deep Listening will help you move from confusion and conflict to thoughtful, insightful and powerful discussions that will transform not just your work, but your whole life.

Author : Mark Goulston
Publisher : AMACOM
Page : 272 pages
File Size : 46,7 Mb
Release : 2015-03-04
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 9780814436486

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Just Listen by Mark Goulston Pdf

Getting through to someone is a critical, fine art. Whether you are dealing with a harried colleague, a stressed-out client, or an insecure spouse, things will go from bad to worse if you can't break through emotional barricades and get your message thoroughly communicated and registered. Drawing on his experience as a psychiatrist, business consultant, and coach, author Mark Goulston combines his background with the latest scientific research to help you turn the “impossible” and “unreachable” people in their lives into allies, devoted customers, loyal colleagues, and lifetime friends. In Just Listen, Goulston provides simple yet powerful techniques you can use to really get through to people including how to: make a powerful and positive first impression; listen effectively; make even a total stranger (potential client) feel understood; talk an angry or aggressive person away from an instinctual, unproductive reaction and toward a more rational mindset; and achieve buy-in--the linchpin of all persuasion, negotiation, and sales. Whether they're coworkers, friends, strangers, or enemies, the first make-or-break step in persuading anyone to do anything is getting them to hear you out. The invaluable principles in Just Listen will get you through that first tough step with anyone. With this groundbreaking book, you will be able to master the fine but critical art of effective communication.

Author : Mike Clayton
Publisher : Pearson UK
Page : 202 pages
File Size : 49,8 Mb
Release : 2013-10-11
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 9780273788614

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How to Speak so People Listen by Mike Clayton Pdf

In a busy world of noise, how do you get your message across? Everyone knows how vital good communication is in any business. But what’s the point if no-one’s listening to you? How to Speak so People Listen shows you how to make sure that what you’re saying is being listened to and making a difference. Using proven techniques from the world’s most successful communicators, debaters and conversationalists, you’ll discover how to: • Always be heard by speaking in a compelling, persuasive and powerful way • Seize attention, make an impact and leave a memorable first impression • Think fast and quickly adapt your message to suit your audience • Stand out at meetings, conferences, networking events and chance encounters • Be confident at public speaking – someone people really want to listen to Effective tools, strategies, tips and tricks will make sure you’re able to command attention and know that, whenever you speak, people will want to hear what you have to say.

Author : Clay Drinko
Publisher : Simon and Schuster
Page : 224 pages
File Size : 42,7 Mb
Release : 2021-01-19
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 9781982169237

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Play Your Way Sane by Clay Drinko Pdf

Stop negative thoughts, assuage anxiety, and live in the moment with these fun, easy games from improv expert Clay Drinko. If you’ve been feeling lost lately, you’re not alone! Even before the Covid-19 pandemic, Americans were experiencing record levels of loneliness and anxiety. And in our current political turmoil, it’s safe to say that people are looking for new tools to help them feel more present, positive, and in sync with the world. So what better way to get there than play? In Play Your Way Sane, Dr. Clay Drinko offers 120 low-key, accessible activities that draw on the popular principles of improv comedy to help you tackle your everyday stress and reconnect with the people around you. Divided into twelve fun sections, including “Killing Debbie Downer” and “Thou Shalt Not Be Judgy,” the games emphasize openness, reciprocation, and active listening as the keys to a mindful and satisfying life. Whether you’re looking to improve your personal relationships, find new meaning at work, or just survive our trying times, Play Your Way Sane offers serious self-help with a side of Second City sass.

Author : Jim Petersen
Publisher : Unknown
Page : 128 pages
File Size : 50,6 Mb
Release : 2015
Category : Communication in families
ISBN : 0979155959

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Why Don't We Listen Better? by Jim Petersen Pdf

Author : Suarez Lavender
Publisher : Anthology Editions
Page : 0 pages
File Size : 53,6 Mb
Release : 2020
Category : Art
ISBN : 1944860363

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Transcendent Waves by Suarez Lavender Pdf

An artist's book guide to the world of sound from musician and sonic healer Lavender Suarez.

Author : Becky Harling
Publisher : Bethany House
Page : 176 pages
File Size : 49,7 Mb
Release : 2017-08-01
Category : Religion
ISBN : 9781441231147

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How to Listen So People Will Talk by Becky Harling Pdf

How Listening Well Builds Stronger Communication and Deeper Connections No relationship is perfect--but it can be better. The secret to stronger relationships isn't to become more charming or funny or to solve the world's problems or to just try harder. All you have to do is listen. It's that simple. Yet our noisy culture hasn't equipped us to do this. With warmth and a touch of humor, personal coach and expert communicator Becky Harling shares simple, practical listening tools that will help you become a person others are drawn to and want to spend time with, as well as how to: · be fully present · offer understanding instead of advice · ask great questions · create a sense of safety and trust · manage your body language · and more! When you learn to listen well, your marriage will grow stronger, your parenting will flourish, your friendships will thrive, and your influence at work will increase. You will be amazed at how one simple act can transform the hearts of others--as well as your own.

Author : Iain Dale
Publisher : HarperCollins
Page : 304 pages
File Size : 47,5 Mb
Release : 2020-08-06
Category : Biography & Autobiography
ISBN : 9780008379148

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Why Can’t We All Just Get Along: Shout Less. Listen More. by Iain Dale Pdf

Why Can’t We All Just Get Along is part-memoir, part-polemic about the state of public discourse in Britain and the world today.

Author : Stephen Martin,Joseph Marks
Publisher : Random House
Page : 336 pages
File Size : 53,7 Mb
Release : 2019-09-19
Category : Business & Economics
ISBN : 9781473560727

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Messengers by Stephen Martin,Joseph Marks Pdf

____________________________ Why can some people effortlessly command the attention of everyone in the room? What makes some individuals seem immediately credible and others appear inherently untrustworthy? And how is it that precisely the same idea can be enthusiastically embraced or roundly rejected depending on who has put it forward? When we talk to others, we assume that they are carefully weighing our words and arguments. But these are far from being the only factors that hold sway. In this groundbreaking new book, bestselling behavioural scientists Stephen Martin and Joseph Marks explore the eight powerful human traits that help determine whether what we have to say gets heard or lands on deaf ears. They show how seemingly irrelevant details about our demeanour influence others’ responses. They explain how trust is won, even when it may not be deserved. They show how the most trivial of signals – like the shape of our face, the shoes we wear or the car we drive – can influence how people respond to us. And in a world of uncertainty and fake news they demonstrate how, increasingly, the Messenger is the Message. ‘Some books make us better citizens. Others make us better at our jobs. This amazing book does both!’ Dan Pink, author of When, Drive and To Sell is Human ____________________________ ‘A tour de force. Timely and thoroughly researched.’ Professor Robert Cialdini, author of Influence and Pre-suasion ‘Messengers is engaging, informative and entertaining. It will change the way you think about who you follow and take advice from. But why would you listen to me? Read their book to find out.' Professor Tali Sharot, author of The Optimism Bias and The Influential Mind 'A powerful, profoundly illuminating exploration of one of the most important subjects of our time. Martin and Marks have a terrific talent for combining evidence and research with lively and vivid writing. Trust these messengers!' Cass R. Sunstein, Robert Walmsley University Professor, Harvard University, and author of Conformity 'Fascinating' The Economist 'Zeitgeisty' Financial Times, Business Book of the Month 'Messengers is a crucial reminder that the messenger is as important as the message. Superficial indicators count.' PR Week

Author : Michael P. Nichols,Martha B. Straus
Publisher : Guilford Publications
Page : 378 pages
File Size : 46,7 Mb
Release : 2021-02-22
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9781462545896

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The Lost Art of Listening by Michael P. Nichols,Martha B. Straus Pdf

"That isn't what I meant!" Truly listening and being heard is far from simple, even between people who care about each other. This perennial bestseller--now revised and updated for the digital age--analyzes how any conversation can go off the rails and provides essential skills for building mutual understanding. Thoughtful, witty, and empathic, the book is filled with vivid stories of couples, coworkers, friends, and family working through tough emotions and navigating differences of all kinds. Learn ways you can: *Hear what people mean, not just what they say. *Share a difference of opinion without sounding dismissive. *Encourage uncommunicative people to open up. *Make sure both sides get heard in heated discussions. *Get through to someone who never seems to listen. *Ask for support without getting unwanted advice. *Reduce miscommunication in texts and online. From renowned therapist Michael P. Nichols and new coauthor Martha B. Straus, the third edition reflects the huge impact of technology and social media on relationships, and gives advice for talking to loved ones across social and political divides

Author : Howard Binkow,Reverend Ana
Publisher : We Do Listen Foundation
Page : 33 pages
File Size : 48,6 Mb
Release : 2005
Category : Juvenile Fiction
ISBN : 9780971539013

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Howard B. Wigglebottom Learns to Listen by Howard Binkow,Reverend Ana Pdf

When Howard B. Wigglebottom starts feeling sad about always getting into trouble at school for not listening, he decides to change his ways.