Coping With Your Grown Children

Author : Jim Burns, Ph.D
Publisher : Zondervan
Page : 188 pages
File Size : 44,8 Mb
Release : 2019-03-26
Category : Religion
ISBN : 9780310353799

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Doing Life with Your Adult Children by Jim Burns, Ph.D Pdf

Are you struggling to connect with your child now that they've left the nest? Are you feeling the tension and heartache as your relationship dynamic begins to change? In Doing Life with Your Adult Children, bestselling author and parenting expert Jim Burns provides practical advice and hopeful encouragement for navigating this tough yet rewarding transition. If you've raised a child, you know that parenting doesn't stop when they turn eighteen. In many ways, your relationship gets even more complicated--your heart and your head are as involved as ever, but you can feel things shifting, whether your child lives under your roof or rarely stays in contact. Doing Life with Your Adult Children helps you navigate this rich and challenging season of parenting. Speaking from his own personal and professional experience, Burns offers practical answers to the most common questions he's received over the years, including: My child's choices are breaking my heart--where did I go wrong? Is it OK to give advice to my grown child? What's the difference between enabling and helping? What boundaries should I have if my child moves back home? What do I do when my child doesn't seem to be maturing into adulthood? How do I relate to my grown child's significant other? What does it mean to have healthy financial boundaries? How can I support my grown children when I don't support their values? Including positive principles on bringing kids back to faith, ideas on how to leave a legacy as a grandparent, and encouragement for every changing season, Doing Life with Your Adult Children is a unique book on your changing role in a calling that never ends.

Author : Jeffrey Bernstein
Publisher : Da Capo Lifelong Books
Page : 274 pages
File Size : 51,5 Mb
Release : 2009-06-09
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9780738212616

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Liking the Child You Love by Jeffrey Bernstein Pdf

Offers proven strategies for taming toxic thought patterns of parents about their unruly children, and provides guidelines to improving the defiant behavior of children by changing one's own parenting mindset.

Author : Allison Bottke,Carol Kent
Publisher : Harvest House Publishers
Page : 226 pages
File Size : 44,6 Mb
Release : 2019-12-03
Category : Religion
ISBN : 9780736976671

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Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children by Allison Bottke,Carol Kent Pdf

Finally…Hope for Parents in Pain What parent doesn’t want their children to grow up to be happy, responsible adults? Yet despite parents’ best efforts, most heartfelt prayers, and most loving environments, some kids never successfully make the transition to independently functioning adulthood. Following her own journey, Allison Bottke developed a tough-love approach to parenting adult children that helps both you and your child by focusing on setting you free from the repeated pain of your adult child’s broken promises, lies, and deception. Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children offers practical hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y.—a six–step program to help parents regain control in their homes and their lives. S = STOP Enabling, STOP Blaming Yourself, and STOP the Flow of Money A = Assemble a Support Group N = Nip Excuses in the Bud I = Implement Rules/Boundaries T = Trust Your Instincts Y = Yield Everything to God As you love your child with arms and heart wide open, know that no matter what happens you are never alone. God is in control and will be with you.

Author : Lindsay C. Gibson
Publisher : New Harbinger Publications
Page : 281 pages
File Size : 41,5 Mb
Release : 2015-06-01
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 9781626251724

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Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson Pdf

If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life. In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect, and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents’ emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you’ll learn how to create positive, new relationships so you can build a better life. Discover the four types of difficult parents: The emotional parent instills feelings of instability and anxiety The driven parent stays busy trying to perfect everything and everyone The passive parent avoids dealing with anything upsetting The rejecting parent is withdrawn, dismissive, and derogatory

Author : Jane Adams
Publisher : Simon and Schuster
Page : 232 pages
File Size : 48,7 Mb
Release : 2008-06-20
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9781439106822

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When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us by Jane Adams Pdf

How do today's parents cope when the dreams we had for our children clash with reality? What can we do for our twenty- and even thirty-somethings who can't seem to grow up? How can we help our depressed, dependent, or addicted adult children, the ones who can't get their lives started, who are just marking time or even doing it? What's the right strategy when our smart, capable "adultolescents" won't leave home or come boomeranging back? Who can we turn to when the kids aren't all right and we, their parents, are frightened, frustrated, resentful, embarrassed, and especially, disappointed? In this groundbreaking book, a social psychologist who's been chronicling the lives of American families for over two decades confronts our deepest concerns, including our silence and self-imposed sense of isolation, when our grown kids have failed to thrive. She listens to a generation that "did everything right" and expected its children to grow into happy, healthy, successful adults. But they haven't, at least, not yet -- and meanwhile, we're letting their problems threaten our health, marriages, security, freedom, careers or retirement, and other family relationships. With warmth, empathy, and perspective, Dr. Adams offers a positive, life-affirming message to parents who are still trying to "fix" their adult children -- Stop! She shows us how to separate from their problems without separating from them, and how to be a positive force in their lives while getting on with our own. As we navigate this critical passage in our second adulthood and their first, the bestselling author of I'm Still Your Mother reminds us that the pleasures and possibilities of postparenthood should not depend on how our kids turn out, but on how we do!

Author : Judith R. Smith
Publisher : Rowman & Littlefield
Page : 283 pages
File Size : 45,8 Mb
Release : 2022-02-15
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9781538138892

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Difficult by Judith R. Smith Pdf

A much-needed perspective on how to mother difficult adult children while balancing one’s own needs. Difficult brings to life the conflicts that arise for mothers who are confronted with the unexpected, burdensome, and even catastrophic dependencies of their adult children associated with mental illness, substance use, or chronic unemployment. Through real stories of mothers and their challenging adult children, this book offers relatable, provocative, and, at times, shocking illustrations of the excruciating maternal dilemma: Which takes precedence—the needs of the mother or of the distressed adult child? With guidance for finding social support, staying safe, engaging in self-care, and helping the adult child, Difficult is a compassionate resource for those living in a family situation which too many keep secret and allows readers to see that they are not alone.

Author : Sheri McGregor
Publisher : Unknown
Page : 351 pages
File Size : 51,7 Mb
Release : 2016-04-30
Category : FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS
ISBN : 0997352205

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Done With The Crying by Sheri McGregor Pdf

In this encouraging book, Sheri McGregor helps parents of estranged adult children break free from emotional pain and move forward in their lives. With the latest research, her own experience, and insight from more than 9,000 parents, McGregor covers the growing trend of estranged adults from loving families. Devastated parents can be happy again.

Author : Joel Young,Christine Adamec
Publisher : Rowman & Littlefield
Page : 264 pages
File Size : 46,7 Mb
Release : 2013-12-03
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 9781493003969

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When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart by Joel Young,Christine Adamec Pdf

Behind nearly every adult who is accused of a crime, becomes addicted to drugs or alcohol, or who is severely mentally ill and acting out in public, there is usually at least one extremely stressed-out parent. This parent may initially react with the bad news of their adult child behaving badly with, "Oh no!" followed by, "How can I help to fix this?" A very common third reaction is the thought, "Where did I go wrong--was it something I said or did, or that I failed to do when my child was growing up that caused these issues? Is this really somehow all my fault?" These parents then open their homes, their pocketbooks, their hearts, and their futures to "saving" their adult child--who may go on to leave them financially and emotionally broken. Sometimes these families also raise the children their adult children leave behind: 1.6 million grandparents in the U.S. are in this situation. This helpful book presents families with quotations and scenarios from real suffering parents (who are not identified), practical advice, and tested strategies for coping. It also discusses the fact that parents of adult children may themselves need therapy and medications, especially antidepressants. The book is written in a clear, reassuring manner by Dr. Joel L. Young, medical director of the Rochester Center for Behavioral Medicine in Rochester Hills, Michigan; with noted medical writer Christine Adamec, author of many books in the field. In the wake of the Newtown shooting and the viral popularity of the post "I Am Adam Lanza's Mother," America is now taking a fresh look, not only at gun control, but also on how we treat mental illness. Another major issue is our support or stigmatization of those with adult children who are a major risk to their families as well to society itself. This book is part of that conversation.

Author : Victoria Maxwell
Publisher : Unknown
Page : 33 pages
File Size : 41,6 Mb
Release : 2004-01-01
Category : Mental illness
ISBN : 0973394501

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Crazy for Life by Victoria Maxwell Pdf

Author : Tina Gilbertson
Publisher : Simon and Schuster
Page : 256 pages
File Size : 49,7 Mb
Release : 2014-05-19
Category : Body, Mind & Spirit
ISBN : 9781936740963

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Constructive Wallowing by Tina Gilbertson Pdf

“Constructive wallowing” seems like an oxymoron. Constructive is a good thing, but wallowing is bad. Right? But wait a minute; is it really so terrible to give ourselves a time-out to feel our feelings? Or is it possible that wallowing is an act of loving kindness, right when we need it most? Just about everyone loves the idea of self-compassion -- the notion that maybe in spite of our messy emotions and questionable behavior, we really aren’t all that bad. In recent years there’s been an explosion of books that encourage readers to stop beating themselves up for being human, which is terrific. Unfortunately, readers who aren’t interested in Buddhism or meditation have been left out in the cold. Self-compassion is an everyday habit that everyone can learn, even if they a) aren't particularly spiritual, b) find most books about self-compassion too serious, or else c) have already overdosed on meditation. Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings by Letting Yourself Have Them is the first book to cut right to the chase, bypassing descriptions of Eastern philosophy and meditation techniques to teach readers exactly how to accept and feel their feelings with self-compassion for greater emotional health and well-being … while making them laugh from time to time. It seems that the wisdom of “keeping your friends close and your enemies closer” applies to emotions as well as people. It’s tempting to turn away from menacing, uncomfortable feelings like anger, grief or regret and treat them like unwanted guests; however, ignoring them just seems to make them stick around. They lurk in the background like punks with switchblades, waiting to pounce as soon as they see an opening. By learning to accept and embrace, rather than suppress, difficult feelings, people can keep their sense of personal power and, better yet, gain greater understanding and ultimately esteem for themselves. Feeling bad can actually lead to feeling better, faster!

Author : Edwin L. Klingelhofer
Publisher : Springer Science & Business Media
Page : 284 pages
File Size : 46,7 Mb
Release : 2013-03-07
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9781461245643

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Coping with your Grown Children by Edwin L. Klingelhofer Pdf

Coping With Your Grown Children is the only book to analyze-and lay out specific coping strategies for dealing with-the problems today's parents face with their adult offspring such as: • failure of the child to really "grow up" or achieve full potential • unemptied nests • moving back home after broken marriages • turning your home into a "daycare center" for your grandchildren • substance abuse, cult involvement, trouble with the law • alternative lifestyles or homosexuality • physical or psychiatric problems • or maybe you just think there's a problem!

Author : Debra Evans
Publisher : Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.
Page : 242 pages
File Size : 54,5 Mb
Release : 2012-04-20
Category : Religion
ISBN : 9781604829396

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Blessing Your Grown Children by Debra Evans Pdf

Being a parent of an adult child is a delicate balance of loving and accepting the child while maintaining healthy boundaries. Many parents find releasing their grown children a challenge, and while parents usually want to be supportive, the choices adult children make are sometimes unacceptable to them, leading to disappointment, anger, and guilt feelings. Both parents and grown kids have many adjustments to make as the child separates from the parents’ control. With this book, parents will learn to move forward into a new type of relationship with their kids.

Author : Lisa Heffernan,Mary Dell Harrington
Publisher : Flatiron Books
Page : 352 pages
File Size : 50,5 Mb
Release : 2019-09-03
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9781250188953

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Grown and Flown by Lisa Heffernan,Mary Dell Harrington Pdf

PARENTING NEVER ENDS. From the founders of the #1 site for parents of teens and young adults comes an essential guide for building strong relationships with your teens and preparing them to successfully launch into adulthood The high school and college years: an extended roller coaster of academics, friends, first loves, first break-ups, driver’s ed, jobs, and everything in between. Kids are constantly changing and how we parent them must change, too. But how do we stay close as a family as our lives move apart? Enter the co-founders of Grown and Flown, Lisa Heffernan and Mary Dell Harrington. In the midst of guiding their own kids through this transition, they launched what has become the largest website and online community for parents of fifteen to twenty-five year olds. Now they’ve compiled new takeaways and fresh insights from all that they’ve learned into this handy, must-have guide. Grown and Flown is a one-stop resource for parenting teenagers, leading up to—and through—high school and those first years of independence. It covers everything from the monumental (how to let your kids go) to the mundane (how to shop for a dorm room). Organized by topic—such as academics, anxiety and mental health, college life—it features a combination of stories, advice from professionals, and practical sidebars. Consider this your parenting lifeline: an easy-to-use manual that offers support and perspective. Grown and Flown is required reading for anyone looking to raise an adult with whom you have an enduring, profound connection.

Author : Edwin L. Klingelhofer
Publisher : Dell Books
Page : 283 pages
File Size : 44,7 Mb
Release : 1990
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 0440503078

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Coping with Your Grown Children by Edwin L. Klingelhofer Pdf

Helps parents of adults to recognize which activities of their grown children are a problem that they need to handle, and how to deal with both problems which both generations must handle together and life-style questions

Author : Sheri McGregor
Publisher : Unknown
Page : 110 pages
File Size : 53,8 Mb
Release : 2019-11-21
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 0997352248

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Done With The Crying WORKBOOK: for Parents of Estranged Adult Children by Sheri McGregor Pdf

WORKBOOK of exercises to accompany the award winning self-help title: Done With The Crying: Help and Healing for Mothers of Estranged Adult Children by Sheri McGregor, M.A.