Relate After The Affair

Author : Julia Cole
Publisher : Random House
Page : 242 pages
File Size : 46,9 Mb
Release : 2013-04-30
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9781448177257

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Relate - After The Affair by Julia Cole Pdf

Finding out your partner has had an affair can feel like the ultimate betrayal and learning to trust again is difficult and painful. After the Affair takes a frank look at the reasons why people have affairs and the devastating effects they may have upon the person who has been betrayed. Since this book was first published the internet has grown hugely; websites such as Facebook have mushroomed; and mobile phones have become ubiquitous. All of these create more chances to connect with other people discreetly, quickly and at any time of the day or night. As a result, the nature of affairs is changing dramatically. After the Affair helps couples understand their feelings and explains: - Why affairs happen, including common triggers - What constitutes an affair - How to recover from a betrayal - The pros and cons of leaving or staying in a relationship, with steps to take for reconciliation or parting as amicably as possible Whether you choose to reconcile or to move on, After the Affair can help you work through your feelings and make sense of what has happened.

Author : Julia Cole
Publisher : Random House
Page : 226 pages
File Size : 51,7 Mb
Release : 2008-09-04
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9781407072388

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Relate - After The Affair by Julia Cole Pdf

Exploring why trust is so important to a relationship, After the Affai r takes a frank look at the reasons why people have affairs and the de vastating effects they may have upon the person who has been betrayed, whose first response is likely to be: Why me? After the Affair helps couples understand their feelings and explains: --Why affairs happen, including common triggers: money problems, child ren, dishonesty, etc. --Why some people ride out life's stresses while others cannot --The different types of affairs possible --How to recover from a betrayal --The pros and cons of leaving or staying in a relationship, with step s to take for reconciliation or parting as amicably as possible --How best to help your children cope --What the future may hold.

Author : John Gottman,Nan Silver
Publisher : Simon and Schuster
Page : 304 pages
File Size : 52,7 Mb
Release : 2013-09-10
Category : FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS
ISBN : 9781451608489

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What Makes Love Last? by John Gottman,Nan Silver Pdf

"One of the foremost relationship experts at work today applies the insights of science toward understanding the real meaning of trust between a couple. He decodes the "why" behind betrayal and shows how partners can avoid or recover from unfaithfulness and maintain a loving relationship.Dr. John Gottman, the country's pre-eminent researcher on marriage, is famous for his Love Lab at the University of Washington in Seattle where he deciphers the mysteries of human relationships through scientific research. His thirty-five years of exploration have earned him numerous major awards, including from the National Institute of Mental Health, the American Psychological Association, and the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Now, Dr. Gottman offers surprising findings and advice on the characteristic that is at the heart of all relationships: Trust. Dr. Gottman has developed a formula that precisely calculates any couple's loyalty level. The results determine a relationship's likely future, including the potential for one or both partners to stray. A Love You Can Trust shows couples how to bolster their trust level and avoid what Dr. Gottman calls the "Roach Motel for Lovers." He describes how the outcome of--"sliding door moments," small pivotal points between a couple, can lead either to more emotional connection or to discontent. He suggests a new approach to handling adultery and reveals the varied and unexpected non-sexual ways that couples often betray each other. A Love You Can Trust guides couples through an empirically tested, trust-building program that will let them repair and maintain a long-term, intimate, and romantic relationship"--

Author : Janis A. Spring
Publisher : Harper Collins
Page : 306 pages
File Size : 40,6 Mb
Release : 1997-02-14
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9780060928179

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After the Affair by Janis A. Spring Pdf

For the 70 percent of couples who have been affected by extramarital affairs, this is the only book to offer proven strategies for surviving the crisis and rebuilding the relationship –– written by a nationally known therapist considered an expert on infidelity. When I was 15, I was raped. That was nothing compared to your affair. The rapist was a stranger; you, I thought, were my best friend. There is nothing quite like the pain and shock caused when a partner has been unfaithful. The hurt partner often experiences a profound loss of self–respect and falls into a depression that can last for years. For the relationship, infidelity is often a death blow. After the Affair is the first book to help readers survive this crisis. Written by a clinical psychologist who has been treating distressed couples for 22 years, it guides both hurt and unfaithful partners through the three stages of healing: Normalizing feelings, deciding whether to recommit and revitalizing the relationship. It provides proven, practical advice to help the couple change their behavior toward each other, cultivate trust and forgiveness and build a healthier, more conscious intimate partnership.

Author : Janis A. Spring
Publisher : HarperCollins
Page : 368 pages
File Size : 51,7 Mb
Release : 2020-08-25
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9780063073609

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After the Affair, Third Edition by Janis A. Spring Pdf

“Full of juicy, concrete advice to heal from an affair.” —Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, New York Times bestselling author of Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs From a clinical psychologist who served as a clinical supervisor in the Department of Psychology at Yale University, received the CPA’s award for Distinguished Contribution to the Practice of Psychology, and has treated couples and trained therapists for over four decades, this newly updated, award-winning book provides concrete, proven strategies for those who seek to survive their partner’s infidelity and to rebuild the relationship after an affair. There is nothing quite like the devastation caused when a partner has been unfaithful. Hurt partners often experience a profound shattering of their familiar and valued sense of self and fall into a depression that can last for years. For the relationship, infidelity is often a death blow. This new third edition of After the Affair, with more than 600,000 copies sold, helps guide both hurt and unfaithful partners through three stages of healing: normalizing the crisis, deciding whether to recommit to their partner, and rekindling trust and sexual intimacy. It includes a new section in which patients ask questions not addressed in previous editions, and the author provides concrete strategies for earning trust and forgiveness.

Author : Shirley Glass
Publisher : Simon and Schuster
Page : 450 pages
File Size : 41,5 Mb
Release : 2007-11-01
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9781416586401

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NOT "Just Friends" by Shirley Glass Pdf

One of the world’s leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of infidelity—from suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent infidelity and, if it happens, recover and heal from it. You’re right to be cautious when you hear these words: “I’m telling you, we’re just friends.” Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.

Author : Julia Cole
Publisher : Random House (UK)
Page : 192 pages
File Size : 46,8 Mb
Release : 2000-01
Category : Adultery
ISBN : 0091825156

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After the Affair by Julia Cole Pdf

Author : Steven Solomon,Lorie Teagno
Publisher : New Harbinger Publications
Page : 199 pages
File Size : 51,9 Mb
Release : 2006-11-01
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9781608829682

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Intimacy After Infidelity by Steven Solomon,Lorie Teagno Pdf

A Guide to Rebuilding Trust and Intimacy It's devastating to discover that the person you trust the most has betrayed you. You'll be facing some hard questions after learning of your partner's infidelity. You may choose to rebuild your relationship, or you may decide to move on. Whatever the right decision is for you, this book will help you figure out why your partner betrayed you and decide whether you can remain in your relationship. It will also show you new ways to relate that can help you and your partner become a lasting, loving, and committed couple. You'll start by taking a look at the phenomenon of infidelity and the three types of intimacy: self-intimacy, conflict intimacy, and affection intimacy. Then you'll learn about the three kinds of infidelity—those of fear, of loneliness, and of anger—and what each reveals about your relationship. Then it's on to practical exercises that can heal emotional wounds and enable you to recover your ability to trust. Even if you decide not to remain with your current partner, the book will help you make wise relationship choices to "affair-proof" your future relationship.

Author : Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr.,Dr. Jennifer Harley Chalmers
Publisher : Marriage Resources International Inc
Page : 225 pages
File Size : 41,6 Mb
Release : 2024-03-27
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9798218397777

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Surviving an Affair by Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr.,Dr. Jennifer Harley Chalmers Pdf

How can a marriage survive an affair? Infidelity is one of life's most painful experiences for everyone involved--the betrayed spouse, the children, the extended family members, and even the lover and the wayward spouse. Once trust is broken, how can a couple ever hope to reconcile? In Surviving an Affair, Drs. Harley and Chalmers help you understand every aspect of infidelity--from the beginning of an affair through the restoration of the marriage. They describe: - why affairs begin and end - how to end an affair - how to restore the marriage - how to manage resentment and rebuild trust Surviving an Affair guides you step-by-step from the devastating blow of infidelity to a loving and trusting marriage. All questionnaires mentioned within this book are available in a fillable pdf format from the authors' websites identified on the last page.

Author : Anne Bercht,Brian Bercht
Publisher : FriesenPress
Page : 380 pages
File Size : 55,6 Mb
Release : 2021-01-05
Category : Religion
ISBN : 9781525575303

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My Husband's Affair BECAME the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me by Anne Bercht,Brian Bercht Pdf

"When Brian told me of his affair, my whole world was shattered. Since the affair, and since the difficult recovery period, I have excelled in amazing ways in every area of my life. I look and feel better than I did when I was in my twenties. I have more energy, more zeal and more enthusiasm for life. Since I have gotten over my insecurities, I experience far better relationships with my husband, children and others. I also have more fun. No matter what tragedies happen in our lives, we always have a choice, not a choice over what will happen to us, but a choice over how we will react to it. Will we become bitter or better? I chose to become better, and now my greatest tragedy has also become my greatest personal victory." – Anne Bercht "Would I want to go back to our marriage before the affair? Not a chance! Would I have liked to have gotten to this point some other way? Absolutely! Would I recommend an affair to others so they can reach a greater love and better marriage? Absolutely not! If you have experienced an affair, is rebuilding your marriage worth it? You bet it is! As long as you love each other and are willing to do the work." – Brian Bercht

Author : Mira Kirshenbaum
Publisher : Macmillan
Page : 226 pages
File Size : 42,6 Mb
Release : 2008-05-27
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9781429944700

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When Good People Have Affairs by Mira Kirshenbaum Pdf

A world-renowned therapist, Mira Kirshenbaum has treated thousands of men and women caught in the powerful drama over what to do when an affair reaches into their emotional lives. Now, in When Good People Have Affairs, Kirshenbaum puts her unsurpassed experience into one clear, calming place. She gives readers everything they need to cut through the thickets of fear, hurt and confusion to find their ways to happier, more solid relationships with the person who's right for them. For example, Kirshenbaum identifies seventeen types of affairs, helping readers figure out which type they're in and what it means. Is it a: --"See-if" affair? --Ejector-seat affair? --Distraction affair? --Unmet-needs affair? --Panic affair? Kirshenbaum encourages honest answers to such questions as: --What am I missing in my marriage? --How do I decide between two people when it's like comparing an apple to an orange? --How do I decide to end my marriage, end my affair, or end them both? She leads readers through six easy-to-navigate steps that will take anyone from anxiety to clarity. When Good People Have Affairs will be a lifeline to any man or woman who feels caught between two lovers, and its insights are indispensable to anyone else touched by an affair.

Author : Esther Perel
Publisher : HarperCollins
Page : 321 pages
File Size : 46,9 Mb
Release : 2017-10-10
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9780062322609

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The State of Affairs by Esther Perel Pdf

"A fresh look at infidelity, broadening the focus from the havoc it wreaks within a committed relationship to consider also why people do it, what it means to them, and why breaking up is the expected response to duplicity — but not necessarily the wisest one.” — LA Review of Books From iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity comes a provocative and controversial look at infidelity with practical, honest, and empathetic advice for how to move beyond it. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”

Author : Tim Tedder
Publisher : Unknown
Page : 128 pages
File Size : 45,7 Mb
Release : 2017-02-06
Category : Electronic
ISBN : 0997801883

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Affair Healing by Tim Tedder Pdf

Author : Stephen M. Judah
Publisher : InterVarsity Press
Page : 198 pages
File Size : 45,8 Mb
Release : 2006-06-09
Category : Religion
ISBN : 0830833994

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Staying Together When an Affair Pulls You Apart by Stephen M. Judah Pdf

Steve Judah explores the phenomenon of infidelity, considering both the push of marital discord and the pull of sexual temptation. With clear and helpful analysis of the relational science behind infidelity, he delivers a tested way back toward a meaningful marriage.

Author : Elizabeth Landers,Vicky Mainzer
Publisher : Hyperion
Page : 194 pages
File Size : 40,7 Mb
Release : 2005-04-27
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 1401302289

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The Script by Elizabeth Landers,Vicky Mainzer Pdf

You+ve heard it before: Your friend's husband is acting distant, and she blames herself. Rumor starts to spread that he's running around with his secretary, and still your friend doesn't see. Then he drops the Bomb, moves out-and is soon happily remarried to his mistress. How could your friend have been so blind? That could never happen to you.Statistics show that 35% of husbands cheat on their wives. In The Script, Elizabeth Landers and Vicky Mainzer take readers through the standard lines that have been used by hundreds of unfaithful husbands.Like a screenplay for a movie you never wanted to see, The Script indicates which signs to look for, red flags you might not have noticed before, and how to turn the tide of disaster before it's too late.