Toxic Shame

Author : John Bradshaw
Publisher : Health Communications, Inc.
Page : 338 pages
File Size : 41,7 Mb
Release : 2005-10-15
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 9780757303234

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Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw Pdf

This classic book, written 17 years ago but still selling more than 13,000 copies every year, has been completely updated and expanded by the author. "I used to drink," writes John Bradshaw,"to solve the problems caused by drinking. The more I drank to relieve my shame-based loneliness and hurt, the more I felt ashamed." Shame is the motivator behind our toxic behaviors: the compulsion, co-dependency, addiction and drive to superachieve that breaks down the family and destroys personal lives. This book has helped millions identify their personal shame, understand the underlying reasons for it, address these root causes and release themselves from the shame that binds them to their past failures.

Author : Oliver Cooper, Jr.
Publisher : CreateSpace
Page : 154 pages
File Size : 50,8 Mb
Release : 2015-02-11
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 1505315565

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Toxic Shame by Oliver Cooper, Jr. Pdf

• Do you have low self-esteem? • When you are in a relationship, do you feel as though you are not enough? • Do you put up with bad behaviour? • Are you obsessed with self development? • Do you believe that you are unlovable? • Are you always self conscious? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you could be carrying toxic shame.Toxic Shame - Is Toxic Shame Defining Your Life? Looks into what can happen when someone is carry toxic shame. While someone might not be aware of their toxic shame, it can still end up defining their life. This book covers over twenty different ways in which toxic shame can negatively affect someone's life: from how they talk to themselves to their relationships, to if they feel they belong and to how they feel about themselves and many other areas.

Author : Jane Middelton-Moz
Publisher : Simon and Schuster
Page : 143 pages
File Size : 55,5 Mb
Release : 2020-08-30
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 9780757324048

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Shame & Guilt by Jane Middelton-Moz Pdf

"It is my feeling that debilitating shame and guilt are at the root of all dysfunctions in families,” says Jane Middelton-Moz. A few common characteristics of adults shamed in childhood: You may suffer extreme shyness, embarrassment and feelings of being inferior to others. You don’t believe you make mistakes, you believe you are a mistake. You feel controlled from the outside and from within. You feel that normal spontaneous expression is blocked. You may suffer from debilitating guilt; you apologize constantly. You have little sense of emotional boundaries; you feel constantly violated by others; you frequently build false boundaries. If you see yourself in any of these characteristics, you can learn how shame keeps you from being the person you were born to be and how to change that. Shame And Guilt describes how debilitating shame is created and fostered in childhood and how it manifests itself in adulthood and in intimate relationships. Through the use of myths and fairytales to portray different shaming environments, Dr. Middelton-Moz allows you to reach the shamed child within you and to add clarity to what could be difficult concepts. Read Shame and Guilt — you’re worth it.

Author : Gershen Kaufman
Publisher : Schenkman Books
Page : 304 pages
File Size : 51,5 Mb
Release : 1992
Category : Psychology
ISBN : UOM:39015028404690

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Shame by Gershen Kaufman Pdf

Author : Darlene Lancer
Publisher : Hazelden Publishing
Page : 250 pages
File Size : 50,7 Mb
Release : 2014-05-16
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 9781616495336

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Conquering Shame and Codependency by Darlene Lancer Pdf

A nationally recognized author and codependency expert examines the roots of shame and its connection with codependent relationships. Learn how to heal from their destructive hold by implementing eight steps that will empower the real you, and lead to healthier relationships. Shame: the torment you feel when you’re exposed, humiliated, or rejected; the feeling of not being good enough. It’s a deeply painful and universal emotion, yet is not frequently discussed. For some, shame lurks in the unconscious, undermining self-esteem, destroying confidence, and leading to codependency. These codependent relationships—where we overlook our own needs and desires as we try to care for, protect, or please another—often cover up abuse, addiction, or other harmful behaviors. Shame and codependency feed off one another, making us feel stuck, never able to let go, move on, and become the true self we were meant to be. In Conquering Shame and Codependency, Darlene Lancer sheds new light on shame: how codependents’ feelings and beliefs about shame affect their identity, their behavior, and how shame can corrode relationships, destroying trust and love. She then provides eight steps to heal from shame, learn to love yourself, and develop healthy relationships.

Author : Dr Joseph Burgo
Publisher : Watkins
Page : 394 pages
File Size : 42,5 Mb
Release : 2018-12-06
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 9781786782922

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Shame by Dr Joseph Burgo Pdf

Encounters with embarrassment, guilt, self-consciousness, and remorse are unavoidable in everyday life. Although uncomfortable they often have something to teach us. This family of emotions, collectively known as shame, can help highlight our goals and values, and can be used as a tool for self-knowledge. In this accessible and engaging book psychotherapist Joseph Burgo draws on his 35 years of experience in private practice to reclaim this supposedly toxic emotion and transform it into a force of empowerment. Self-esteem canÕt thrive in the soil of nonstop praise and encouragement. Instead it depends upon setting and meeting goals, living up to the expectations we hold for ourselves, and sharing our joy in achievement with the people who matter most to us. This intimate look at the spectrum of shame emotions offers a new, positive route forward from shame to joy, dignity, and self-esteem.

Author : O'Hara, Mary
Publisher : Policy Press
Page : 384 pages
File Size : 48,6 Mb
Release : 2020-02-27
Category : Social Science
ISBN : 9781447349280

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The Shame Game by O'Hara, Mary Pdf

What does it mean to be poor in Britain and America? For decades the primary narrative about poverty in both countries is that it has been caused by personal flaws or ‘bad life decisions’ rather than policy choices or economic inequality. This misleading account has become deeply embedded in the public consciousness with serious ramifications for how financially vulnerable people are seen, spoken about and treated. Drawing on a two-year multi-platform initiative, this book by award-winning journalist and author Mary O’Hara, asks how we can overturn this portrayal once and for all. Crucially, she turns to the real experts to try to find answers – the people who live it.

Author : June Price Tangney,Ronda L. Dearing
Publisher : Guilford Press
Page : 292 pages
File Size : 54,5 Mb
Release : 2003-11-01
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 1572309873

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Shame and Guilt by June Price Tangney,Ronda L. Dearing Pdf

This volume reports on the growing body of knowledge on shame and guilt, integrating findings from the authors' original research program with other data emerging from social, clinical, personality, and developmental psychology. Evidence is presented to demonstrate that these universally experienced affective phenomena have significant implications for many aspects of human functioning, with particular relevance for interpersonal relationships. --From publisher's description.

Author : Sherrie Campbell
Publisher : New Harbinger Publications
Page : 273 pages
File Size : 42,8 Mb
Release : 2022-04-01
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9781684039302

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Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members by Sherrie Campbell Pdf

Cutting ties with a toxic family member is a crucial step away from a legacy of dysfunction and toward healing and happiness. This compassionate guide will help you embrace your decision with a sense of pride, validation, and faith in yourself; and provides powerful tools for creating boundaries, coping with judgment, and overcoming self-doubt. Do you have a toxic family member? Do you feel like cutting ties with this person—even as painful and scary as that may sound—would dramatically increase your well-being and improve your life? You’re not alone. Severing ties with a family member can be devastating; and cutting this toxic person out of your life may bring up feelings of guilt and uncertainty—especially if you feel judged by others regarding your decision. Fortunately, you can free yourself from this toxic family member in a healthy, responsible, and liberating way. In Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members, psychologist and toxic-family survivor Sherrie Campbell offers effective strategies for setting strong boundaries after ending contact with a toxic family member, and provides powerful tools to help you heal from shame, self-doubt, and stigma. You’ll find the validation you need to embrace your decision with pride and acknowledgement of your self-worth. You’ll learn how to let go of negative thoughts and feelings. And finally, you’ll develop the skills needed to rediscover self-care, self-love, self-reliance, and healthy loving relationships. Whether you’re ready to sever ties with a toxic family member, or already have, this book will help guide you, every step of the way.

Author : Linda Graham
Publisher : New World Library
Page : 545 pages
File Size : 46,5 Mb
Release : 2013
Category : Body, Mind & Spirit
ISBN : 9781608681297

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Bouncing Back by Linda Graham Pdf

While resilience is innate in the brain, our capacity for it can be impaired by our conditioning. Unhelpful patterns of response are learned over time and can become fixed in our neural circuitry. What neuroscience now shows is that what previously seemed hardwired can be rewired.

Author : Patricia A. DeYoung
Publisher : Routledge
Page : 274 pages
File Size : 47,6 Mb
Release : 2015-02-11
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9781317560890

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Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame by Patricia A. DeYoung Pdf

Chronic shame is painful, corrosive, and elusive. It resists self-help and undermines even intensive psychoanalysis. Patricia A. DeYoung’s cutting-edge book gives chronic shame the serious attention it deserves, integrating new brain science with an inclusive tradition of relational psychotherapy. She looks behind the myriad symptoms of shame to its relational essence. As DeYoung describes how chronic shame is wired into the brain and developed in personality, she clarifies complex concepts and makes them available for everyday therapy practice. Grounded in clinical experience and alive with case examples, Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame is highly readable and immediately helpful. Patricia A. DeYoung’s clear, engaging writing helps readers recognize the presence of shame in the therapy room, think through its origins and effects in their clients’ lives, and decide how best to work with those clients. Therapists will find that Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame enhances the scope of their practice and efficacy with this client group, which comprises a large part of most therapy practices. Challenging, enlightening, and nourishing, this book belongs in the library of every shame-aware therapist.

Author : Orit Kamir
Publisher : Fairleigh Dickinson University Press
Page : 207 pages
File Size : 42,5 Mb
Release : 2019-11-15
Category : Political Science
ISBN : 9781683932048

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Betraying Dignity by Orit Kamir Pdf

What do medieval knights, suicide bombers and "victimhood culture" have in common? Betraying Dignity argues that in the second decade of the twenty-first century, individuals, political parties and nations around the world are abandoning the dignity-based culture we established in the aftermath of two world wars, less than a century ago. Disappointed or intimidated, many turn their backs on the humanitarian, universalistic culture that presumes our inherent human dignity and celebrates it as the basis of every individual's equal human rights. Instead, people and nations are returning to a much older, honor-based cultural structure. Because its ancient logic and mentality take new forms (such as social network shaming and certain aspects of "victimhood culture") -- we fail to recognize them, and overlook the pitfalls of the old honor-based structure. Narrating the history of honor-based societies, this book distinguishes their underlying principle from the post-WWII notion of dignity that underlies human rights. It makes the case that in order to revive and strengthen dignity-based culture, the concept of human dignity must be defined narrowly and succinctly, and enhanced with the principle of respect. Continuing its historical and cultural narrative, the book discusses contemporary phenomena such as al-Qaeda terrorists, shaming via social network, FoMO, and some features of the emerging "victimhood culture". The book pays homage to Erich Fromm's classic Escape from Freedom.

Author : Curt Thompson
Publisher : InterVarsity Press
Page : 213 pages
File Size : 40,9 Mb
Release : 2015-08-26
Category : Religion
ISBN : 9780830898749

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The Soul of Shame by Curt Thompson Pdf

The Gospel Coalition Top Books Hearts Minds Bookstore's Best Books Outreach Magazine's Resources of the Year We're all infected with a spiritual disease. Its name is shame. Whether we realize it or not, shame affects every aspect of our personal lives and vocational endeavors. It seeks to destroy our identity in Christ, replacing it with a damaged version of ourselves that results in unhealed pain and brokenness. But God is telling a different story for your life. Psychiatrist Curt Thompson unpacks the soul of shame, revealing its ubiquitous nature and neurobiological roots. He also provides the theological and practical tools necessary to dismantle shame, based on years of researching its damaging effects and counseling people to overcome those wounds. Thompson's expertise and compassion will help you identify your own pains and struggles and find freedom from the lifelong negative messages that bind you. Rewrite the story of your life and embrace healing and wholeness as you discover and defeat shame's insidious agenda.

Author : Peter R. Breggin, MD
Publisher : Prometheus Books
Page : 287 pages
File Size : 45,7 Mb
Release : 2014-12-02
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9781616147211

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Guilt, Shame, and Anxiety by Peter R. Breggin, MD Pdf

With the first unified theory of guilt, shame, and anxiety, this pioneering psychiatrist and critic of psychiatric diagnoses and drugs examines the causes and effects of psychological and emotional suffering from the perspective of biological evolution, child development, and mature adult decision-making. Drawing on evolution, neuroscience, and decades of clinical experience, Dr. Breggin analyzes what he calls our negative legacy emotions—the painful emotional heritage that encumbers all human beings. The author marshals evidence that we evolved as the most violent and yet most empathic creatures on Earth. Evolution dealt with this species-threatening conflict between our violence and our close-knit social life by building guilt, shame, and anxiety into our genes. These inhibiting emotions were needed prehistorically to control our self-assertiveness and aggression within intimate family and clan relationships. Dr. Breggin shows how guilt, shame, and anxiety eventually became self-defeating and demoralizing legacies from our primitive past that no longer play any useful or positive role in mature adult life. He then guides the reader through the Three Steps to Emotional Freedom, starting with how to identify negative legacy emotions and then how to reject their control over us. Finally, he describes how to triumph over and transcend guilt, shame, and anxiety on the way to greater emotional freedom and a more rational, loving, and productive life.

Author : Shelley Stokes,Sherron Lewis
Publisher : Page Publishing Inc
Page : 140 pages
File Size : 54,6 Mb
Release : 2018-08-20
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9781642981704

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The Trauma of Shame and the Making of the Self by Shelley Stokes,Sherron Lewis Pdf

Shame influences more of our thoughts and actions than many other emotions. Used as a punishment for bad behavior, shame acts as an incentive for us to behave in socially acceptable ways. As a common method used to regulate children's behavior, shame is by far one of the most pervasive socializing agents. Many of our more persistent, punitive, and critical feelings about ourselves stem from humiliations in early childhood even if we don't remember the specific events that prompted them. While we all experience shame from time to time, when shame becomes toxic, it can play a central role in our life-long development and functioning. At its worst, shame can become a devastating attack on one's personhood and a threat to the integrity of the self. Many books on shame and the process of healing have been written, but few have been written specifically from a psychodynamic depth psychology perspective. It is intended that The Trauma of Shame and The Making of the Self will make an important contribution to that effort. Shelley Stokes, PhD, and Sherron Lewis, LMFT Authors of Letting Go and Taking the Chance to be Real (Lewis and Stokes 2017)