Lies We Tell Ourselves The Psychology Of Self Deception

Author : Cortney S. Warren, Ph.D.
Publisher : Choose Honesty, LLC, Cortney S. Warren, Ph.D.
Page : 60 pages
File Size : 46,5 Mb
Release : 2024-06-28
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9781600131424

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Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception by Cortney S. Warren, Ph.D. Pdf

Humans are excellent liars. We don’t like to think of ourselves as capable of lying; it hurts us too much to admit. So we lie to ourselves about that, too. As a clinical psychologist, I am regularly confronted with the brutal truth that we all lie. I am not talking about deliberate, bold-faced lying. No, this type of dishonesty is far harder to detect and admit. It is the kind of lying that comes from not being psychologically strong enough to be honest with ourselves about who we are. And I believe that it is our biggest obstacle to living a fulfilling life. I wrote this book for anyone interested in becoming more honest. In it, I present a range of self-deceptive examples couched in psychological theory to help us explore ourselves. Although it is a relatively short book, indented to be read in about an hour, I hope that the content provokes deep thought. For when we are honest about who we really are, we have the opportunity to change.

Author : Jon Frederickson
Publisher : Unknown
Page : 0 pages
File Size : 55,9 Mb
Release : 2017
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 0988378884

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Lies We Tell Ourselves by Jon Frederickson Pdf

"In The Lies We Tell Ourselves, psychotherapist Jon Frederickson reveals the ways we fool ourselves and how to get unstuck. Through dozens of stories and examples, he demonstrates that the apparent cause of our problems is almost never the real cause. In addition, he reveals what we really fear and how to face it. In the spirit of Stephen Grosz and Irving Yalom, Frederickson shows how to recognize the lies we tell ourselves and face the truths we have avoided--and stop saying yes when we really mean no."--Amazon.com.

Author : Daniel Goleman
Publisher : Simon and Schuster
Page : 294 pages
File Size : 50,8 Mb
Release : 1985
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9780684831077

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Vital Lies, Simple Truths by Daniel Goleman Pdf

A penetrating analysis of the dark corners of human deception, enlivened by intriguing case histories and experiments.

Author : Robin Talley
Publisher : Harlequin
Page : 410 pages
File Size : 53,5 Mb
Release : 2016-01-26
Category : Juvenile Fiction
ISBN : 9780373212040

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Lies We Tell Ourselves by Robin Talley Pdf

In 1959 Virginia, Sarah, a black student who is one of the first to attend a newly integrated school, forces Linda, a white integration opponent's daughter, to confront harsh truths when they work together on a school project.

Author : Bridget Harwell
Publisher : iUniverse
Page : 178 pages
File Size : 47,7 Mb
Release : 2013-05-06
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 9781475984538

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Lies by Bridget Harwell Pdf

We lie to ourselves every day, and these lies can lead to significant unhappiness in our lives. In Lies, authors Bridget Harwell and Elizabeth Scott present a collection of more than forty essays based on their daily interactions with clients who have suffered the pain of digging deeply and unearthing the self-deceptions that have limited their lives. Harwell and Scott, two successful, practicing psychologists, compiled the essays to examine the various forms of self-deception, many of which are unconscious attempts at self-protection which can go unnoticed and yet lead to stress and unhappiness. Accompanied by whimsical and evocative drawings, Lies examines a variety of themes, such as guilt, worry, indecision, and the power of relationships. Each piece is followed by a conversation between Harwell and Scott that seeks to add clarity to the discussion. Written in a conversational style that mimics a therapy session, this collection presents strategies for finding the truth beneath the lies we tell ourselves and gives us an opportunity to live a more integrated life, a life of authenticity thats essential for any kind of true happiness.

Author : David Livingstone Smith
Publisher : Macmillan
Page : 262 pages
File Size : 50,7 Mb
Release : 2007-08-07
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9781466821507

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Why We Lie by David Livingstone Smith Pdf

Deceit, lying, and falsehoods lie at the very heart of our cultural heritage. Even the founding myth of the Judeo-Christian tradition, the story of Adam and Eve, revolves around a lie. We have been talking, writing and singing about deception ever since Eve told God, "The serpent deceived me, and I ate." Our seemingly insatiable appetite for stories of deception spans the extremes of culture from King Lear to Little Red Riding Hood, retaining a grip on our imaginations despite endless repetition. These tales of deception are so enthralling because they speak to something fundamental in the human condition. The ever-present possibility of deceit is a crucial dimension of all human relationships, even the most central: our relationships with our very own selves. Now, for the first time, philosopher and evolutionary psychologist David Livingstone Smith elucidates the essential role that deception and self-deception have played in human--and animal--evolution and shows that the very structure of our minds has been shaped from our earliest beginnings by the need to deceive. Smith shows us that by examining the stories we tell, the falsehoods we weave, and the unconscious signals we send out, we can learn much about ourselves and how our minds work. Readers of Richard Dawkins and Steven Pinker will find much to intrigue them in this fascinating book, which declares that our extraordinary ability to deceive others--and even our own selves--"lies" at the heart of our humanity.

Author : Shankar Vedantam,Bill Mesler
Publisher : W. W. Norton & Company
Page : 198 pages
File Size : 49,7 Mb
Release : 2021-03-02
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9780393652215

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Useful Delusions: The Power and Paradox of the Self-Deceiving Brain by Shankar Vedantam,Bill Mesler Pdf

A Behavioral Scientist Notable Book of 2021 A Next Big Idea Club Best Nonfiction of 2021 From the New York Times best-selling author and host of Hidden Brain comes a thought-provoking look at the role of self-deception in human flourishing. Self-deception does terrible harm to us, to our communities, and to the planet. But if it is so bad for us, why is it ubiquitous? In Useful Delusions, Shankar Vedantam and Bill Mesler argue that, paradoxically, self-deception can also play a vital role in our success and well-being. The lies we tell ourselves sustain our daily interactions with friends, lovers, and coworkers. They can explain why some people live longer than others, why some couples remain in love and others don’t, why some nations hold together while others splinter. Filled with powerful personal stories and drawing on new insights in psychology, neuroscience, and philosophy, Useful Delusions offers a fascinating tour of what it really means to be human.

Author : Eduardo Giannetti
Publisher : Bloomsbury Paperbacks
Page : 320 pages
File Size : 52,6 Mb
Release : 2001
Category : Philosophy
ISBN : 0747552940

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Lies We Live by by Eduardo Giannetti Pdf

This is a book about the lies we tell ourselves, and Giannetti approaches his subject by intriguing routes. In the natural world, he surveys the art of deception such as orchids simulating female insects to trick the males. He considers chemical deception introduced into the body by drugs. He assesses the role of self-deception in individual acts of daring and the degree of self-interest we hide from ourselves but are very ready to spot in others. Of profound interest is the paradox which allows one part of the mind to lie to another which Giannetti weighs up from an ethical point of view as it reflects on the individual and impacts on society.

Author : Mark R. Leary
Publisher : Oxford University Press
Page : 237 pages
File Size : 49,7 Mb
Release : 2007
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 9780195325447

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The Curse of the Self by Mark R. Leary Pdf

Despite its obvious advantages, our ability to be self-reflective comes at a high price. Few people realize how profoundly their lives are affected by self-reflection or how frequently inner chatter interferes with their success, pollutes their relationships with others, and undermines their happiness. By allowing people to ruminate about the past or imagine what might happen in the future, self-reflection conjures up a great deal of personal suffering in the form of depression, anxiety, anger, jealousy, and other negative emotions. A great deal of unhappiness, in the form of addictions, overeating, and domestic violence, is due to people's inability to exert control over their thoughts and behavior. Is it possible to direct our self-reflection in a way that will minimize the disadvantages and maximize the advantages? Is there a way to affect the egotistical self through self-reflection? In this volume, Mark Leary explores the personal and social problems that are created by the capacity for self-reflection, and by drawing upon psychology and other behavioral sciences, offers insights into how these problems can be minimized.

Author : Michael Lewis,Carolyn Saarni
Publisher : Guilford Press
Page : 244 pages
File Size : 41,8 Mb
Release : 1993-02-05
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 0898628946

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Lying and Deception in Everyday Life by Michael Lewis,Carolyn Saarni Pdf

"I speak the truth, not so much as I would, but as much as I dare...."-- Montaigne "All cruel people describe themselves as paragons of frankness.'" -- Tennessee Williams Truth and deception--like good and evil--have long been viewed as diametrically opposed and unreconcilable. Yet, few people can honestly claim they never lie. In fact, deception is practiced habitually in day-to-day life--from the polite compliment that doesn't accurately relay one's true feelings, to self-deception about one's own motivations. What fuels the need for people to intricately construct lies and illusions about their own lives? If deceptions are unconscious, does it mean that we are not responsible for their consequences? Why does self-deception or the need for illusion make us feel uncomfortable? Taking into account the sheer ubiquity and ordinariness of deception, this interdisciplinary work moves away from the cut-and-dried notion of duplicity as evil and illuminates the ways in which deception can also be understood as a adaptive response to the demands of living with others. The book articulates the boundaries between unethical and adaptive deception demonstrating how some lies serve socially approved goals, while others provoke distrust and condemnation. Throughout, the volume focuses on the range of emotions--from feelings of shame, fear, or envy, to those of concern and compassion--that motivate our desire to deceive ourselves and others. Providing an interdisciplinary exploration of the widespread phenomenon of lying and deception, this volume promotes a more fully integrated understanding of how people function in their everyday lives. Case illustrations, humor and wit, concrete examples, and even a mock television sitcom script bring the ideas to life for clinical practitioners, behavioral scientists, and philosophers, and for students in these realms.

Author : Charles V. Ford
Publisher : American Psychiatric Pub
Page : 0 pages
File Size : 50,7 Mb
Release : 1999
Category : Deception
ISBN : 0880489979

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Lies!, Lies!!, Lies!!! by Charles V. Ford Pdf

Lies! Lies!! Lies!!! The Psychology of Deceit looks beyond compulsive liars in our society and considers the ongoing flood of lies that we as human beings experience every day. Who lies? Not just children, politicians, advertisers, and salespeople. Our co-workers lie. Our friends lie. Our relatives lie. And we lie to them. Everybody lies. We learn to lie and to detect deceit as a developmental task. Dr. Ford's philosophy is that lying is part of the bridge between one's internal world (beliefs, perceptions, expectations, fantasies) and one's external world (reality). Lies work not only to deceive others but to deceive ourselves. This book shines a spotlight on an understudied phenomenon that affects us all as we raise children, choose a relationship, move forward with a career path, or buy a used car.

Author : Ian Leslie
Publisher : House of Anansi
Page : 402 pages
File Size : 54,7 Mb
Release : 2011-05-21
Category : Philosophy
ISBN : 9781770890282

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Born Liars by Ian Leslie Pdf

Lying is an intrinsic part of our social fabric, but it is also a deeply problematic and misunderstood aspect of what makes us human. Ian Leslie takes us on a fascinating journey that makes us question not only our own relationship to the truth, but also virtually every daily encounter we have. On the way he dissects the history of the lie detector, how parents affect their children’s attitude to lying (and vice versa), Who Wants to Be a Millionaire?, the philosophical ambiguity of telling the truth, Bill Clinton’s presentational prowess, Wonder Woman’s lasso of truth, and why we should be wary of anyone with more than 150 Facebook friends. Born Liars is thought-provoking, anecdotally driven narrative nonfiction at its best. Ian Leslie’s intoxicating blend of anthropology, biology, cultural history, philosophy, and popular psychology belies a serious central message: that humans have evolved and thrived in large part because of their ability to deceive.

Author : Eduardo Giannetti
Publisher : Unknown
Page : 0 pages
File Size : 51,7 Mb
Release : 2001
Category : Self-deception
ISBN : OCLC:1392433846

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Lies We Live by by Eduardo Giannetti Pdf

Author : Dana Marrocco
Publisher : Courier Dover Publications
Page : 240 pages
File Size : 44,9 Mb
Release : 2018-08-15
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 9780486833439

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The Top Ten Lies We Tell Ourselves by Dana Marrocco Pdf

Using humor and a solid base of academic and practical knowledge, Dr. Dana Marrocco helps readers gently undo the self-deception caused by the most common ego-driven lies.

Author : Robert Trivers
Publisher : Penguin Books
Page : 399 pages
File Size : 51,9 Mb
Release : 2014-01-30
Category : Deception
ISBN : 0141019913

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Deceit and Self-Deception by Robert Trivers Pdf

We lie to ourselves every day: about how well we drive, how much we're enjoying ourselves - even how good looking we are. In this ground-breaking book, Robert Trivers examines not only how we self-deceive, but also why, taking fascinating examples from aviation disasters, con artists, sexual betrayals and conflicts within families. Revealing, provocative and witty, Deceit and Self-Deception is one of the most vital books written this century, and will make you rethink everything that you think you know. 'Original and important . . . remarkable, thick with ideas.' Financial Times 'One of the great thinkers in the history of Western thought.' Steven Pinker 'A swift tour of links between deception and evolutionary progress . . . fascinating.' Economist 'I devoured it from cover to cover . . . exhilarating.' Guardian 'A powerful book . . . essential for anyone who wants to try to counter their own unconscious biases.' Independent